I'm a 22-year-old guy, and I shared with my 20-year-old girlfriend that it seems like she's taking away from my life instead of contributing positively. She’s considering breaking up with me but is open to having a conversation later today to sort things out. I could use some advice on how to approach this.

I shared with my girlfriend that it feels as though she takes everything I offer without contributing to my life in return. I didn’t mean to express it this way; I truly love and care for her deeply. There have been about four previous instances where she criticized me rather than discussing what I might have done wrong. On one occasion, she seemed distant and unengaged throughout the day. When I asked her about it, she mentioned her dad was the cause. I offered her the space to talk, but she didn't want to share. Later that day, we visited my dad's house, and her demeanor changed completely. She was cheerful and interacted positively with my family, spending more time with them than with me. We had canceled our date to be with my family instead. I expressed my feelings of neglect, and she reassured me that we could spend time together the following day since we had planned to sleep over. As the day progressed, a miscommunication occurred regarding her wanting a drink. I went inside for dinner, thinking she was going to handle it herself. She came in visibly upset, and even when I tried to ask what was wrong, she ignored me and walked back outside. When she returned, I followed her in to clarify. Eventually, she revealed her frustration stemmed from me laughing with a friend of my family's, who is around our age. I tried to address the situation calmly, but she began to list all the things I had done wrong. Hearing her accusations deeply affected me emotionally, and I ended up crying and retreating to another room. When she came in to talk, I felt like she was reflecting the way her dad communicates—pointing out what’s wrong without resolving anything. It seemed like she was projecting her feelings onto me that day. I feel criticized without clear communication, and this has led to feelings of resentment towards her. These experiences have made it difficult for me to support her, and I often find myself questioning my own safety and comfort in our relationship. The day her dad hurt her, I canceled my plans to be there for her. However, despite my efforts to create a safe space, her behavior made it challenging. What troubled me further was learning she had spent time with someone without informing me, despite her previous insistence that I keep her updated about who I'm with. I brought up this issue, highlighting past incidents where she hadn’t communicated similarly, and I felt pushed to share everything without being dismissive of her feelings. She asserted that her struggles with her dad were her priority, which left me feeling unheard. I tried to be supportive but eventually went to see her because I was feeling increasingly unhappy. My negative experiences with her criticism made it difficult for me to express my feelings. I felt invalidated when she told me she couldn’t handle my emotions at that moment. In a moment of frustration, I voiced that it seemed like she took more from our love without adding anything in return. I regret saying that; it reflected my feelings of lacking comfort and peace in our relationship. After I shared these feelings, we decided to take a month-long break. Just five days in, she reached out, saying she wanted to end things because of my earlier comments. I expressed my desire to continue working on our relationship, and she mentioned being open to figuring things out honestly. I want to apologize and mend our relationship. How can I approach her constructively to make things right?