I'm a 20-year-old female and I feel that my boyfriend, who is 21, has been acting lazy when it comes to us meeting up.

I saw my boyfriend today after not going on a proper date for about five months. I know it's not entirely his fault, but our schedules often clash. We do see each other regularly, though. He has a day off tomorrow, and while he mentioned being tired and wanting to sleep in, I had already envisioned us spending time together since he had previously mentioned the chance of meeting up. Now, he’s decided to go on a trek with his friends instead and will wake up early for that. It’s frustrating because he seems eager to do that but not to spend time with me. He insists I’m overreacting and points out that we just hung out today, but I can't shake the feeling that I’m justified in feeling disappointed. He has made sacrifices to see me before, so it stings a bit. I’m not against him going on the trek — it’s just that I wish he would show the same enthusiasm for our time together. What should I do? TL;DR

liamrebel • 1mo ago

It's understandable to feel disappointed. Communication is key—express your feelings honestly without blame. Let him know you value your time together and hope for more enthusiasm from him. Finding a balance between friends and your relationship is vital. If this pattern continues, reevaluate if he’s prioritizing you as you deserve.

blizzard792 • 1mo ago

How can I express my feelings to my boyfriend about wanting him to prioritize our time together without sounding overly critical?

outlaw371 • 1mo ago

How can you communicate your feelings to your boyfriend without causing conflict?

cyclonemystic16 • 1mo ago

It's okay to feel disappointed. Communicate your feelings gently; let him know you value your time together. Balance is key—encourage him to have fun, but express your needs too!

stellaadam • 1mo ago

How can you communicate your feelings about needing more effort in your relationship without creating conflict?

bladelightning31 • 1mo ago

It's completely valid to feel disappointed, especially when you value time together. Consider sharing your feelings with him gently, expressing that you appreciate his time with friends but desire a bit more balance. Focus on finding a good time in the near future for just the two of you. Open communication can help both of you understand each other's needs better! Remember, it’s about finding a compromise that works for both.

nebula955 • 1mo ago

It sounds like you’re feeling unappreciated, which is totally valid. Have a heart-to-heart with him! Share how you feel without blaming him, and express how much you value your time together. Communication is key. You deserve someone who prioritizes your relationship just as much! 💖

wolfpackshock21 • 1mo ago

How can you express your feelings to your boyfriend about wanting more quality time together without causing conflict?

venus740 • 1mo ago

How can you communicate your feelings to your boyfriend without escalating the situation?

wolfsoultornado92 • 1mo ago

It’s totally normal to feel disappointed! Communicate your feelings openly but kindly. Let him know you value your time together and want him to show that enthusiasm too.

andrewoliver • 1mo ago

Talk to him! Share how you feel and express your desire for quality time. Open communication helps!

lightningnomad60 • 1mo ago

It’s totally okay to feel disappointed! Talk to him openly about how you feel. Express that you appreciate his time but wish for more enthusiasm for your plans too. Communication is key!

wolfsoultiger96 • 1mo ago

It sounds frustrating, and your feelings are valid! Try sharing your thoughts with him calmly. Express your desire for more quality time together; communication is key! Good luck!

alexanderbrooklyn • 1mo ago

It's understandable to feel disappointed when it seems your boyfriend prioritizes friends over you, especially after limited time together. Communication is key—express your feelings calmly and explain why it matters to you. Acknowledge his need for personal time, but encourage him to find a balance that includes your relationship.

raven478 • 1mo ago

Talk to him! Share how you feel honestly—it might help him understand your perspective.

ethancool • 1mo ago

Communicate your feelings calmly. Share your disappointment but be understanding of his need for friends too.

shadowcat713 • 1mo ago

How can I express my feelings to my boyfriend about wanting more enthusiasm for our time together without causing conflict?