29M and 29F: My girlfriend seems distant, yet insists that everything is okay.

**Background:** We've been in a relationship for four years, and we don't live together or share finances. **The Situation:** Over the past month and a half, her behavior has become increasingly odd. Most of the time, she seems to ignore me. I’ve tried to engage her in conversation, but I often receive little response—sometimes just a nod—and even simple questions get curt replies. For example, earlier today at her place, I asked where the kettle was because I couldn’t find it, and she snapped back, "Where do you think?" It felt quite unnecessary. During this time, I've asked her multiple times if something is wrong, and she consistently insists that everything is fine. The best explanation I’ve gotten is that she’s stressed at work, which I understand, but when it comes to her roommate, family, and friends, she’s warm, friendly, and talkative. At this point, I’m starting to dread visiting her. I’m feeling lost on how to address this situation and understand what’s going on. Chasing after someone who treats me like this is beginning to take a toll on my self-esteem. I would appreciate any advice on how to navigate this challenging situation.

cool351 • 1mo ago

Have you tried discussing your feelings about her behavior directly and expressing how it affects you?

rebelseeker60 • 1mo ago

Talk to her openly about your feelings. If she continues to ignore you, consider reassessing things.

davidice • 1mo ago

It sounds like you’re in a tough spot. Your girlfriend’s behavior may indicate stress or something deeper—communication is key. Consider addressing your concerns when she’s calm; express your feelings without sounding accusatory. If her distance continues and she remains unresponsive, it might be worth discussing the state of the relationship. Prioritize your well-being too.

ninjadarkflame25 • 1mo ago

It sounds like you're in a tough position. It's concerning that her behavior is changing, especially if she's warm with others but distant with you. Open communication is key—try expressing your feelings without pressure. If she continues to dismiss your concerns, consider evaluating the relationship's dynamics. Prioritize your well-being.