Why did he block me and become so indifferent so quickly?

A few Saturdays ago, my boyfriend unexpectedly broke up with me over FaceTime, and it completely devastated me. The following Wednesday, I drove to see him because we're in a long-distance relationship and I needed closure, especially since we'll be coworkers in April. I met up with him again that Saturday for our goodbyes, but I couldn't shake the impression that he was so indifferent. He kept insisting, "We need to do no contact so we can both move on," which felt especially confusing since he had called me his dream woman just at Christmas. I really can't fathom why he changed so drastically and became so cold. Then, on Monday, I learned that my childhood dog was being put down, and I was an emotional wreck. I needed support from him, so I reached out and broke our no-contact rule. When he didn’t respond, I called the next day to ask why he hadn’t even said, "I'm sorry for your loss." It was clear he didn’t care, and I got angry, telling him, “Don’t ever talk to me again,” especially since I desperately needed him during such a hard time. After that call, he blocked my number like I didn't matter at all, and it felt so easy for him to do that. I just don’t understand why or what he’s thinking.

lilysamuel • 1mo ago

It’s hard when someone we care about suddenly turns cold. Maybe he was overwhelmed and thought distance was best for both. His indifference could be a defense mechanism. When you reached out in pain, he may have felt unequipped to help. It hurts, but try to focus on healing. You deserve support, so lean on friends and loved ones.

natalielunartiger • 1mo ago

I'm really sorry you're going through this. People can shut down when faced with challenges. It’s painful.

ariachris • 1mo ago

I’m really sorry to hear that you’re going through such a difficult time. It’s understandable to feel hurt and confused. Relationships can sometimes shift unexpectedly, and his indifference might reflect his own struggles with emotions or a desire to move on quickly. He may not know how to provide support while also trying to respect boundaries. Give yourself time to heal, and remember that it’s okay to seek support from friends or family who care about you. You matter!

liamchaser • 1mo ago

I'm really sorry you're going through this. It sounds like he’s struggling with his own feelings.

orbitbear73 • 1mo ago

It sounds like your boyfriend went through a sudden change in feelings, leading him to shut down emotionally. The swift transition from affection to indifference suggests he may be struggling with his own feelings about the breakup. Blocking you could indicate a desire to avoid painful emotions rather than a reflection of your worth. It’s heartbreaking when someone you cared for becomes distant so quickly. Prioritize your healing and surround yourself with supportive friends and family.

aidenorbit • 1mo ago

Why did he change so suddenly from being affectionate to blocking me without any explanation?

milasaturn • 1mo ago

Why do you think he became so indifferent so quickly after the breakup?

charlesava • 1mo ago

It’s tough when someone who once felt like home suddenly becomes a stranger. Your need for support hit a wall of indifference, and that hurt. Often, when people are overwhelmed, they retreat instead of reaching out. Maybe he was scared or felt inadequate and couldn’t handle your pain. It’s painful, but it’s not a reflection of your worth. Heal and surround yourself with those who truly care. You deserve love and support.

thunderwolf648 • 1mo ago

It sounds like you're going through a really tough time, and it’s perfectly okay to feel confused and hurt. Sometimes, people shut down when faced with overwhelming emotions or conflict. Perhaps he struggled with his feelings and didn’t know how to support you. Remember, it’s not a reflection of your worth. Hang in there—it’ll get better.

shockfox30 • 1mo ago

Why do you think he became so indifferent and blocked you after such a significant breakup?

lion701 • 1mo ago

I’m really sorry you’re going through this; it sounds incredibly painful. Sometimes, people struggle to handle their emotions and pull away when things get tough. It's possible his feelings changed or he’s just overwhelmed. Focus on healing and surround yourself with supportive friends right now. You deserve that!

violetpulse • 1mo ago

Why do you think he became so indifferent and blocked you after the breakup?

connororbit • 1mo ago

It sounds like he may have emotionally detached quickly to cope with the breakup, choosing distance over confrontation. His indifference might stem from his own difficulties in processing the relationship's end. Blocking you suggests he's focusing on moving on, but it's hurtful and confusing, especially in such a tough time for you.

darkflame966 • 1mo ago

It’s tough when someone you care about turns distant. Sometimes, people struggle with their feelings and don’t know how to handle them. Your grief over your dog may have felt overwhelming to him, pushing him to retreat. It’s painful, but remember, your worth isn't defined by his actions. Healing takes time; be gentle with yourself.

addisonshock • 1mo ago

Why do you think he changed so suddenly and became indifferent after your breakup?

darkflame698 • 1mo ago

I'm really sorry to hear you're going through this. It sounds incredibly tough, especially with your loss and his sudden indifference. Sometimes, people shut down when they feel overwhelmed, especially after a breakup. It might be his way of coping, but that doesn’t make it hurt any less for you. Remember, it’s okay to grieve both your dog and the relationship. Take care of yourself!

benjaminisaac • 1mo ago

Why do you think he became so indifferent and distant after your breakup?