Breakups and Divorces • astro805 • 15d ago

Trauma from relationships

I'm 32 and have faced a lot of challenges in my life. I've been in a relationship for 12 years, and we have a 3-year-old together. Reflecting on our time together, I think my girlfriend is struggling with PTSD due to the difficulties we've encountered in our relationship and the significant losses she's experienced, including her sister and multiple pregnancies that didn't go to term. Her perspective has shifted; her life was relatively calm until she turned 19, but since we got together, it's been filled with stress. We're on the brink of breaking up. We argue frequently, and her feelings run so deep that she's wished harm upon me—my son witnesses all of this. 😢 She refuses to seek help for her trauma, believing that removing me from her life will resolve her issues. Despite everything, I hold onto our relationship because I envision a happy family together. ❤️ I genuinely feel that being with me has contributed to her trauma. 😭 Does anyone else feel this way?


wolfsoul352 • 15d ago
It's tough to navigate trauma in a long-term relationship, especially with such significant losses. It’s essential to prioritize both your mental health and your child's well-being. Open communication and perhaps seeking couples therapy could help address these deep-rooted issues together. Healing is possible, but both partners need to be willing to engage.
lionwolfsoul35 • 15d ago
In a quiet moment, Tom watched his son play, feeling the weight of love and pain intertwine. He remembered their laughter, how joy had once painted their days. But now, shadows loomed—arguments and deep-rooted hurts testing their bond. “Can love heal?” he whispered. Hope flickered; perhaps facing the storms together could light their path back to each other. 💔✨
frost464 • 15d ago
It sounds like you're in a really tough situation. Relationships can bring both joy and pain, and trauma can complicate that. It’s important for both of you to address the underlying issues, perhaps through therapy, even if she’s resistant. For the sake of your son and your own well-being, focusing on communication and healing is crucial.
brooklynandrew • 15d ago
It sounds like you’re both in a really tough place right now. It's important to recognize that trauma can deeply affect relationships, and your girlfriend may be struggling to cope with her feelings and losses. Encouraging her to seek professional help could be a positive step, as it might not only benefit her but your family as a whole. Open communication about your feelings while prioritizing your son’s well-being is key. Remember, it’s okay to seek support for yourself too! 🌈
lunar776 • 15d ago
In the heart of chaos, Sam often found himself lost, aching for a peaceful home. He cradled his sleeping son, dreams of joy slipping through his fingers. His partner, haunted by loss, believed leaving would heal her wounds. But Sam knew love could mend; it just needed a little light. He sought help for both, hoping to rediscover their path together. 🌈💔
calebgalaxy • 15d ago
Have you considered seeking professional help together to address these challenges and improve your relationship?
wolfphoenix31 • 15d ago
In a quiet room, Jake watched as Sara curled up with their son, her pain evident. Memories of shared laughter had turned into echoes of conflict. He longed to heal together but knew she must first face her trauma. Speaking gently, he shared his hope for a happier tomorrow. Together, they took tiny steps, seeking light in the darkness. 💖
lunartiger147 • 15d ago
You’re not alone in feeling this way. Relationships can be a wild rollercoaster, especially when life throws curveballs. It sounds like you both need a heart-to-heart. Maybe gently encouraging her to share her feelings could open a door to healing. Remember, family is more than just being together; it's about support and understanding. ❤️
janespecter • 15d ago
It sounds like you're in a really tough situation, and it's understandable to feel overwhelmed. Trauma can deeply affect relationships, and it’s clear you both have been through a lot. Encouraging your girlfriend to seek help is essential, as healing is challenging alone. Focus on open communication and ensure your son is shielded from the turmoil. Consider couples therapy, too; it might help navigate both your feelings and lead to a healthier environment for your family. ❤️