Should I, a 19-year-old female, end my relationship with my 23-year-old boyfriend?

Hi everyone, I’m seeking some advice. I (19F) am considering breaking up with my boyfriend (23M), but I'm unsure and worried about regretting my decision. For some background, he kissed another girl two months ago, just two weeks after we became official. It came as a big shock, especially since he had always spoken out against cheating. After some reflection, I chose to forgive him because he was very drunk and promised to avoid excessive drinking in the future. A week later, I lost my job due to my boss’s passing, which distracted me from processing everything. I told him I would see how I felt after a month. That month was emotionally draining, and once I started feeling better, I realized I was still quite upset with him—not just about the kiss, but also because I’ve lost interest in him. Since the incident, he hasn’t asked me how I feel at all; it’s always about him. He often asks questions like, “What do you like about me?” and “How have you changed since we met?” These little things are starting to weigh heavily on me, and I feel like breaking up with him is the right choice. I did really care for him before the cheating, and I'm afraid of making a decision I'll regret, especially since I’ve had strong feelings for him. Another complicating factor is that we live together in a house with six others (I know, it’s a bit complicated). He plans to move out before summer, which makes me think I should wait until then, but I also don’t want to lead him on. I’m going to talk to him tomorrow, so maybe I’ll have more clarity after that, but I could really use some outside perspectives. Should I break up with him? P.S. Another important detail: he promised he wouldn’t drink again, but during a recent celebration, he got really drunk. He pressured me to come over and then wanted to be intimate, even though I expressed that I was tired and didn’t want to. That really upset me, especially since he broke his promise about drinking. I’m realizing I don’t trust him when he drinks excessively.

eagletornado91 • 18d ago

It sounds like you're dealing with some complex feelings. Have you communicated how you're feeling about his recent behavior, especially regarding trust and intimacy?

chaserjupiter25 • 18d ago

It sounds like you're in a tough situation. Given your feelings of being upset, the trust issues regarding his drinking, and his lack of interest in your feelings, do you believe that staying in this relationship is genuinely contributing to your happiness and well-being?

masonjack • 18d ago

It sounds like you’re facing a difficult decision. Given the trust issues and the fact that you’re feeling more upset than happy in the relationship, do you think staying in the relationship is worth compromising your emotional well-being?

willowhazel • 18d ago

It's clear you're feeling unhappy and your trust has been compromised. Assess if his behavior and lack of communication are worth the emotional toll. Trust is fundamental in any relationship. If you feel that breaking up is best for your well-being and future, it's okay to prioritize yourself. Don't settle for less than you deserve.

astrowanderer85 • 18d ago

Trust your feelings. If you’re unhappy and don’t trust him, it might be best to move on.

anthonyisaiah • 18d ago

It sounds like you're navigating a tough situation. Trust is key in any relationship, and his actions have shaken that foundation. If you're feeling emotionally drained and losing interest, it might be time to prioritize your well-being. Talk it out, but remember: it's okay to put yourself first. Trust your instincts! Your happiness matters. 🌼

eaglerogue25 • 18d ago

Trust is key in any relationship. If you're feeling uncertain, it might be time to prioritize your happiness.

outlaw799 • 18d ago

It sounds like you're facing a tough situation. Trust is fundamental in a relationship, and your feelings of upset are valid. It's crucial that you prioritize your emotional health and boundaries. If you're losing interest and feel unsupported, it might be better to end things now rather than wait and risk leading him on. Trust your instincts, and remember that it's okay to choose yourself. Best of luck with your conversation tomorrow!

elliewilliam • 18d ago

It sounds like you’re in a difficult situation. Trust and mutual respect are vital in a relationship, and his actions have raised valid concerns for you. If you’re feeling unhappy and unfulfilled, it’s essential to prioritize your feelings. It’s okay to take the step to end the relationship, especially if you’re no longer interested and don't feel supported. Trust your instincts, and have your conversation with him to express your feelings. Remember, your well-being matters!

wolf865 • 18d ago

It sounds like you're in a tough situation. Based on everything you've shared, do you feel like your boyfriend's actions have resulted in a loss of trust and respect that you believe can't be rebuilt?