One-year anniversary crisis [F24] and M[26]" can be rephrased as "Crisis at the one-year anniversary [F24] and M[26].
My boyfriend [26M] and I [24F] recently celebrated our one-year anniversary, but I’m feeling really off and not happy at all. I’m curious if it’s common to feel this way as an anniversary approaches. It’s making me rethink whether I should continue our relationship and if he’s truly the right person for me. Two weeks before the anniversary, we had a significant argument. While we were out bowling with his friends, he pulled me aside and accused me of embarrassing him, saying that I act crazy and childish. I have an outgoing personality, but I didn’t do anything out of character. I was simply in a good mood, joking around, and I hadn’t been drinking or anything. Although I didn’t react in the moment, once we got home, I asked him why he said that, which led to a major fight. I spent the entire night and most of the next day crying; I felt so unaccepted and misunderstood. At one point, I seriously thought about leaving him, but the thought of life without him was overwhelming. He apologized, but now, even weeks later, I still feel terrible. It bothers me that he cares so much about what others think of me that he felt justified in putting me down to avoid drawing attention. We have had other arguments, including one where he told me I looked horrendous when I don’t shave. That comment made me feel really rejected, and I considered ending things then, too, because I couldn’t believe he thought he had the right to control my body. I didn’t want to overreact, so I didn’t break up with him, especially because I still loved him. Now, I don’t feel excited when I talk to him, just a lot of disappointment. He’s started reading a book on relationships that I recommended, which makes me think he wants to change. After our fight, I expressed that I wasn’t sure why I stayed with him if he treated me this way. I hate the idea of breaking up with him because I’m so accustomed to having him in my life, and I worry I’d feel lonely since most of my friends are long-distance. I’m scared that a breakup would really affect me. Do you think our relationship can be repaired? Is it possible for me to love him like I used to? Just a month ago, I felt certain he was the one, but now I’m questioning everything and don’t feel any passion for him.