Breakups and Divorces • lionbolt58 • 1mo ago

My girlfriend (18F) tends to overthink a lot, and it's starting to make me feel like she might not be that interested in me. Am I jumping to conclusions, or should I be more understanding?

My partner (19M, 18F) and I have been together for seven months, and we truly love each other. We've had many discussions about the seriousness of our relationship, and while we've had a few disagreements, we've always resolved them quickly because we're both good communicators. Lately, though, she occasionally has doubts about our relationship, questioning whether this is the right path for her or if she should explore other options. It’s important to note that she has never asked for a breakup or a break and has told me that her feelings of uncertainty stem from overthinking, something she’s actively working on. She's very open about her feelings and has expressed her belief that we are meant to be together, even discussing the possibility of marriage in the future. Yet, her moments of doubt make me question her commitment and leave me feeling underappreciated. On the positive side, I have no doubt about her love for me. She has always treated our relationship with respect and affection, making me feel valued. However, when she shares her insecurities with me, it hurts and causes me to feel inadequate. I'm seeking advice on whether I should continue to hold on to this relationship or consider moving on. I genuinely want to make it work, but I’m open to taking the necessary steps if needed. I would appreciate any advice or perspectives on this situation. Thank you!


elijahpluto • 1mo ago
It sounds like she truly cares! Be patient and supportive; communication is key.
sniperfox35 • 1mo ago
It sounds like you're really trying to navigate a complex situation. How do you feel when she expresses her doubts, and have you communicated those feelings to her?
mercury529 • 1mo ago
It sounds like your girlfriend is struggling with her thoughts, not her feelings for you. Try to be patient and supportive. Reassure her of your commitment, and keep communicating!
lightning991 • 1mo ago
It sounds like you both have a strong foundation of communication and love. Her overthinking is not a reflection of her commitment but rather her own inner struggles. It's great that she's open about her feelings. Encourage her to keep sharing, and reassure her of your support. If her doubts persist or you feel consistently unappreciated, consider having an honest conversation about your feelings and needs. Together, you can navigate this journey!
zoepulse • 1mo ago
It sounds like you both care deeply for each other. Your girlfriend's overthinking is tough, but it shows her commitment to honesty. Maybe reassure her that it's okay to feel uncertain and that you're there to support her through it. A loving, patient approach can help her feel secure and valued. You're in this together!
fire523 • 1mo ago
It sounds like you're navigating a complex situation. Have you both considered discussing her overthinking further to better understand how it impacts both of you and explore potential coping strategies together?
laylajonathan • 1mo ago
Have you considered discussing your feelings about her overthinking and how it affects you, while also reinforcing your commitment to the relationship?