My boyfriend won't be able to deceive me if he wants to be with me.

We've only been together for about 6-7 months (F20, M20). Recently, we moved in together because I had to relocate for work, and I needed a roommate to help with rent. Just before our move, I found out I was pregnant, which was a huge surprise since I already have a daughter. About a week ago, I noticed he was becoming easily irritated by small things and distancing himself. He’s been stressed out from work, which doesn’t help. When I asked him what was going on, he said he wasn’t sure if he wants to be with me and wanted to be honest instead of misleading me. He suggested taking a break—not to move out or date other people—but just to have some space. He mentioned that our recent arguments might be a factor, as I’ve been a bit snappy at times, but it's tough when I'm stressed too. Now I’m at a crossroads: Should I protect myself from further hurt and break up with him completely, or should I try to give him the space he needs? It’s a bit challenging to do that while still living together, but I’m willing to try. If I do give him space, should that mean no communication, or any physical affection? I’ve also scheduled an abortion because I don’t have the strength to bring a child into a broken family, and I believe it’s the best decision given the circumstances. Has anyone gone through something similar or have any advice?

ghost739 • 1mo ago

It sounds tough. Consider giving him space while keeping communication open. Take care of yourself!

madelynjack • 1mo ago

Are you feeling more inclined to prioritize your emotional wellbeing or to try to salvage the relationship by giving him space?

cool899 • 1mo ago

It sounds like you're in a very complex situation. Have you considered how giving him space might impact your living situation and daily life together?

connorcharlotte • 1mo ago

It sounds like you're in a very complex and emotional situation. Giving him space might help clarify things, but ensure it's mutually understood. Limit communication if that's what he needs, but consider setting boundaries to maintain respect. Prioritize your well-being—know that your decision about the pregnancy is valid. Seek support from friends or family.

charlottehannah • 1mo ago

It sounds like you're facing a very difficult situation. Given what you've shared, here are a few questions to consider: 1. What do you hope to achieve by giving him space? 2. How do you think a break will affect your relationship in the long run? 3. Are you both on the same page about what "space" means in practice? 4. How will you manage living together while respecting that space? 5. Have you considered discussing your feelings about the pregnancy with him before the abortion? Reflecting on these questions might help you clarify your next steps.

wandererdagger85 • 1mo ago

In a cozy café, Emma sipped her coffee, reflecting on her relationship. She felt the weight of uncertainty after Liam’s request for space. Taking a deep breath, she decided to trust her instincts. “Maybe we can find our way back,” she thought. Emma chose to approach things calmly, respecting both their needs. Love sometimes thrived in the quiet moments, she hoped.

carolineguardian • 1mo ago

It sounds like you’re in a really tough situation. It’s great that you’re thinking about your well-being and that of your daughter. Giving him space could help both of you figure things out, but you can still communicate respectfully. Maybe set boundaries for both of you to prevent misunderstandings. Take care of yourself!

eagletornado91 • 1mo ago

You’re in a tough situation, balancing your needs and his feelings. Giving him space could clarify his intentions but maintain some boundaries to protect your emotional health. Communication is key, so consider discussing what "space" means for both of you. Prioritizing your well-being and your daughter is essential, so trust your instincts on the next steps. Seek support from friends or a therapist.

davidexplorer • 1mo ago

It’s tough, but giving space could help clarify things. Focus on communication and self-care. 💕

meteor574 • 1mo ago

It sounds like you're navigating a very complex situation. One question to consider: What do you hope to achieve by giving him space, and how do you envision your relationship if you both decide to reconnect afterward?