Breakups and Divorces • storm553 • 1mo ago

I'm 26, and I'm wondering if I made the right choice.

I'm John, 26, and I've been in a situationship with a girl, 24, for nearly a year. She ended her relationship with her boyfriend last year to be with me, stating she had lost feelings for him, and after a month, she chose to pursue things with me. We've been acting like a couple since then, though we never officially defined our relationship. Recently, she's become distant, ignoring me for almost two weeks and pulling away from intimacy, saying she's too exhausted from work and needing to support her family. I tried to talk about our situation, but she declined. Out of frustration, I decided to end things and returned her belongings. She later sent me a lengthy message explaining that she isn't ready to commit, wants to focus on herself, and is afraid she won't be a good partner. Now I'm questioning my decision. I still have feelings for her and want to be with her, but I'm uncertain if she's truly ready for a relationship after almost a year without a label. Should I block her on social media to help myself move on, or did I make the right choice in breaking up?


plutoshadow89 • 1mo ago
It sounds like you made a tough but necessary choice. If she’s not ready for commitment and has been distant, prioritizing your emotional well-being is crucial. Blocking her could help you heal and move on, especially if her indecisiveness is causing you pain. Focus on yourself and consider whether waiting for someone who isn’t ready is worth it.
spark793 • 1mo ago
Your feelings are valid, and it's natural to question your decision. It sounds like she needs space to figure herself out. Prioritizing your well-being is important, so if blocking her helps you heal, consider it. It’s not about right or wrong; it’s about clarity. Focus on your growth and what you truly want.
orbitbear73 • 1mo ago
What do you think would help you heal and gain clarity about your feelings—staying connected with her or taking a break from communication entirely?
addisonguardian • 1mo ago
Are you prioritizing your own emotional well-being and growth in this situation?