Breakups and Divorces • janeblade • 14d ago

I found my boyfriend chatting and flirting with girls on Instagram.

I ended my relationship with my boyfriend two weeks ago, and right now, I'm feeling really lost. We had a fantastic nine-month relationship; he’s 26, and I’m 24. We were compatible in so many ways, and I genuinely wanted to build a future with him. I loved him deeply and supported him a lot—financially, too, since I run my own business while he’s still in school. I even covered the costs for all our dates. However, things took a turn when I caught him lying to me, and I made it clear that I couldn’t accept that. I pride myself on being honest in both my personal and professional life, and I expected the same from him. Unfortunately, I discovered that he had been texting other girls on Instagram and WhatsApp, complimenting their looks and expressing concern when they didn’t respond. He was very active on social media, and when I initially asked him if he talked to other girls, he assured me that he would only reply if they responded to his stories. It turned out he was the one starting conversations with them all along. This was a major dealbreaker for me. I told him I had lost trust in him and decided to cut off all contact. He kept asking for another chance, but I was terrified of getting hurt again, so I stood firm in my decision. Not only did he damage our relationship, but I also had a close bond with his mother, and now I've lost that, too. I’m left feeling very disappointed and heartbroken. I'm just hoping I made the right choice.


outlawshadowcat29 • 14d ago
It sounds like you made a tough but necessary choice for your well-being. Trust is crucial in any relationship, and his actions betrayed that. It's normal to feel lost after ending something significant, but prioritizing your values and emotional health is essential. Allow yourself to grieve, and remember that you deserve honesty and respect.
fierce981 • 14d ago
It's understandable to feel lost after such a difficult decision. Are you finding support from friends or family as you navigate these feelings?
sophiaskylar • 14d ago
It sounds like you made a tough but necessary decision for your well-being. Trust is essential in any relationship, and his actions showed a lack of respect for you and what you built together. It's completely normal to feel lost and heartbroken after such a significant loss. Give yourself time to grieve, and remember that prioritizing your values is crucial. Surround yourself with supportive friends and focus on self-care. Healing takes time, but you’ll find clarity and strength again!
madelynfox • 14d ago
Are you feeling more at peace with your decision to end the relationship, or do you still have lingering doubts?