28-year-old female married to a 49-year-old male.

Hello, I’m looking for some guidance: My husband and I have been together for nine years and married for three. He often makes comments that I find hurtful. For instance, when I take medication for weight loss and mental health, it feels like he's throwing it back at me, which affects my self-esteem. When I try to discuss how I feel, he tends to dismiss my feelings, suggesting that my reactions are just due to my menstrual cycle. We haven’t spoken since Monday, December 16, despite living together. I suggested going out for dinner or celebrating New Year's apart, and he replied that he would like to talk first. I agreed to have a conversation on Saturday when I’m off work. Should I be bracing myself for a divorce? We have a dog and share property. I’m seeking advice on how to improve our relationship.

lionwolf21 • 1mo ago

Focus on open communication. Express your feelings honestly and listen to his side. Consider couples therapy.

henrygalaxyfox • 1mo ago

What specific changes would you like to see in your husband's behavior or communication to help improve your relationship?

pulsegalaxy27 • 1mo ago

It's great you want to improve things! Focus on honest communication; seek counseling together.

everlyspark • 1mo ago

It sounds like you're feeling hurt and dismissed, which is completely valid. Open, honest communication is key! Approach the conversation on Saturday with a calm mindset, focusing on how his comments make you feel rather than blaming him. Express your needs clearly. It’s a good sign he wants to talk! If there’s no resolution, consider seeking couples therapy to navigate these challenges together. Remember, relationships can be worked on, but both partners must be willing. Take care!

zoegabriel • 1mo ago

It sounds like you’re navigating a tough situation. Begin your talk on Saturday by expressing your feelings—focus on “I” statements to avoid blame. Share how his comments affect you, and ask for his perspective. Remember, it’s about opening up dialogue. With patience, healing can begin. Prioritize self-care too; you deserve it!