Is it acceptable for me to be 18 and in high school while he is 25?

I (F18) have always been attracted to older, more mature guys, especially those with beards who don’t dress immaturely. Recently, I've been talking to a guy online. He’s 25 and really laid-back, sweet, and respects my boundaries. He often tells me I’m beautiful and asks for pictures of me (nothing inappropriate, thankfully). He likes to compliment me, saying how hot I am and expresses that he misses me when we’re not chatting. While he’s moving a bit fast for my liking, I can't help but feel flattered by his attention. He’s genuinely a nice guy. At times, he does get a bit suggestive, but he’s okay with the fact that I’m still in school, as long as I’m of age. He’s mentioned wanting to be my “older man” and said I’m the youngest girl he’s talked to. There's definitely an allure to our age difference. I also recognize that this might not be the best situation, particularly since it’s online. He loves taking things quickly. Recently, he mentioned wanting to visit me in New York, even though we haven’t known each other for very long. He’s made some offhand comments, like joking about my bust size, just to see how I’d react, which secretly annoys me. He tends to wake up later in the day, but he makes it a point to message me as soon as he does. I feel like I might be the person he communicates with the most. He even said he wants to be "my simp." Is this okay?

sofiaskylar • 8d ago

It's great that he respects your boundaries, but be cautious. Trust your gut and take it slow!

firerocket98 • 8d ago

Your feelings are valid, but it's important to consider the dynamics at play. The age difference can raise concerns, especially since he is significantly older and moving quickly. While he seems respectful, be cautious about his suggestive comments and intentions. Prioritize your safety and comfort, and ensure that the relationship develops at a pace you're comfortable with. Trust your instincts.

rogue463 • 8d ago

It's okay as long as you feel comfortable and respected. Trust your instincts!

ellazoe • 8d ago

While age gaps can be acceptable, the dynamics in your situation raise red flags. At 18, you're still navigating high school life, while he's in a different place, suggesting a potential imbalance in maturity and expectations. Be cautious about moving too fast, especially online. Prioritize your comfort and boundaries.

skyrocket53 • 8d ago

Given the age difference and the fact that you're still in high school, do you feel comfortable with the pace and direction of this online relationship?

gracehawk • 8d ago

It's great that you're feeling flattered by his attention, but it's important to be cautious. The age difference and his desire to move quickly can raise some red flags, especially since he has made suggestive comments that annoy you. Focus on your own comfort and boundaries. Ensure he respects them. Online relationships can be tricky, so take your time getting to know him before meeting up. Trust your instincts—if something feels off, it's worth re-evaluating.

sentinelknight16 • 8d ago

Are you comfortable with the pace of the relationship and his suggestive comments?