I'm a 36-year-old male facing challenges in my relationship with my 39-year-old girlfriend.

It's challenging to keep this brief, but to provide some context: we've been in a relationship for a couple of years and spent months fixing up a place together before moving in. I regularly handle basic chores like taking out the trash, doing the dishes, and laundry, and we clean on weekends. A few months ago, my partner mentioned that she felt I wasn't contributing enough around the house. When I asked how I could improve, she suggested getting more involved in the kitchen. Since then, I’ve been helping with meal preparation several times a week and contributing to nearly every meal. Despite my efforts, she still feels overwhelmed and believes I should take on more responsibilities. It seems like she expects me to guess what needs to be done rather than telling me directly. I even tried to bring a magnet task list for our fridge to outline weekly chores, but she views it as an additional burden. I’d also like to add that my commute ranges from 75-90 minutes each way, while hers is around 30 minutes. She works about 6.5 hours a day, while my job doesn’t have a set schedule. If I have to work late, she gets upset, adding to my stress of balancing work projects and keeping her satisfied. Her schedule allows her time for hobbies, whereas I struggle to carve out time for myself. This tension has caused her to be irritable with me, leading to larger arguments. I'm looking for advice on how to navigate this situation because it feels like I’m fighting an uphill battle. Edit: Clarified wording and details.