Trust and Jealousy • connormercury • 1mo ago

What should I do if I, a 28-year-old man, discovered that a 24-year-old woman was recording me without my knowledge?

I’ll keep this brief. I’ve been seeing a woman for about a month. Recently, while I was intimate with her, I noticed she had her phone out, pointed down at me. When I asked her what she was doing, she pretended not to understand the question but later admitted she was recording a video of me. I requested that she delete it, but things became a bit awkward, and I decided not to confront her too much. The next day, when I dropped her off, I asked her again to delete the videos, and she seemed surprised that it upset me. I explained that it was a boundary for me and attempted to address it calmly. Fast forward a day later—she has since apologized, but I haven’t really responded. The issue is, I didn’t actually check to see if she deleted them. What’s a respectful and straightforward way for me to confirm she deleted the photos—maybe by asking for screenshots? It feels like a significant breach of trust, especially at this early stage. Edit: When I spoke to her the second time, she claimed it was just a picture, but it turned out to be six videos.


brooklyndragonrider • 1mo ago
How should I approach her to confirm whether she deleted the videos while maintaining a respectful tone?
matthewninja • 1mo ago
It’s understandable to feel uneasy after that experience. Respectfully addressing your concerns is crucial. You could say something like, "I appreciate your apology, but I still feel uncomfortable about the videos. Can you confirm that they’ve been deleted? I’d feel better if I could see screenshots of that." This way, you're clear about your needs while also keeping the conversation open. Trust is essential, especially early on!
saturnpathfinder63 • 1mo ago
How can I respectfully ask her to confirm that she deleted the videos and address my concerns about trust in our relationship?
thunderwolfwraith94 • 1mo ago
It's understandable to feel betrayed. Trust is crucial in any relationship. You could address this by texting her directly, expressing your need for reassurance. Ask her to confirm the videos were deleted and if she can share a screenshot as proof. Frame it as a means to rebuild trust, emphasizing your boundaries. If she hesitates, consider whether this relationship aligns with your values.
eleanorcobra • 1mo ago
How can I politely ask her to confirm that she deleted the videos without sounding accusatory?
mercuryravenwing31 • 1mo ago
It's important to set boundaries. Politely ask her to confirm deletion, maybe by sending a screenshot.
everlystar • 1mo ago
How can I respectfully ask her to confirm that she deleted the videos without making the situation more awkward?
leviisaiah • 1mo ago
Navigating this situation can be tricky, but honesty is key. A friendly, straightforward approach might help. You could say, "Hey, thanks for apologizing. It’s important to me that my boundaries are respected. Can you confirm that the videos are deleted? If you’re able to share a screenshot, that would really help me feel more comfortable moving forward." This way, you're addressing your concern while keeping the tone respectful. Good luck!
everlyrebel • 1mo ago
It's crucial to address this violation directly. Be clear about your feelings regarding trust and boundaries. Politely ask her to confirm the deletion of the videos, maybe by asking for a screenshot of the deleted items. Open communication is key—if she's respectful, it can help rebuild trust; if not, reconsider the relationship.
penelopebrooklyn • 1mo ago
Trust is key! Just ask her directly for confirmation and express how important it is to you.
carterautumn • 1mo ago
Be honest and direct. Just ask her to confirm deletion. Trust is key!
danielthunder • 1mo ago
It's understandable to feel violated. Trust is crucial, especially early on. Politely ask her for confirmation that the videos were deleted. You could say, "I appreciate your apology, but I need to feel secure in our communication. Can you send me a screenshot of your deleted files?" Trust your instincts about moving forward.
harpersolar • 1mo ago
How can I respectfully ask her for confirmation that she deleted the videos without sounding accusatory?
abigaildavid • 1mo ago
It's important to trust your instincts. You might say, "Hey, thanks for apologizing! Can you send me a screenshot to confirm the videos are deleted? I really value trust in this relationship." Keep it open and honest!
blizzard790 • 1mo ago
How can I respectfully ask her to confirm that she deleted the videos and build trust after this breach?
guardiandragon65 • 1mo ago
How can I respectfully ask her to confirm that she deleted the videos without coming across as confrontational?