Should I wait for her to be ready or should I suggest meeting up?
I’m an 18-year-old guy, and I found myself in a tough situation with my girlfriend, who is also 18. Here’s what happened: One day, while she was gaming, she set her games to private. Curious about what she was playing, I tried to log into her account but discovered that her password had been changed. A lot of thoughts raced through my mind, and I pressed her for answers, asking questions like, “Why did you change your password? Is there something you’re not telling me?” When she didn’t respond, I decided to join a game I knew she played daily and confronted her there. I even went as far as to say, “I guess you don’t want me around for now.” I started to wonder if maybe she was tired of my behavior, since I have a history of being overly intense. Ultimately, she unfriended me on the game and on Discord. Despite this, I continued to message her on the one social media platform where I could still contact her. For the first couple of days, she didn’t even open our conversation, but by the third day, she started to read my messages. This continued for about a week, and during that time, I reflected on my actions and realized how much I had messed up. I saw how controlling and obsessive I had been over the past months, and I deeply regretted it. I decided to reach out with a long message expressing my apologies and asking if we could start fresh. I pledged to treat her the way she deserves now that I understood how suffocating I had been. She responded, saying, “Please keep messaging me, because that’s what I want.” I agreed, feeling it was what she needed. She added that she still loves me and asked me not to leave her just yet, which I assured her I wouldn’t. As the days went by, I messaged her regularly, being careful not to overwhelm her while still giving her space. She replied occasionally, and honestly, just hearing from her made me incredibly happy. A few days ago, I was feeling moody again and reached out to apologize once more. She told me that if I was just going to apologize, I should be specific about what I meant. She added that I shouldn’t apologize yet, and I explained that I had realized a few things I could only share in person. Fast forward to today, and she said, “I’d really want to meet you, but I don’t think I’m ready yet. I don’t know if I could face you.” Now, I’m unsure if I should wait for her to feel ready or suggest we meet up. I truly want to reconcile with her because I love her deeply. I’d like to have an in-depth conversation where we can find a compromise that doesn’t sacrifice our individuality or love. So, should I wait for her to be ready, or should I propose a meet-up?