Trust and Jealousy • auroralandon • 1mo ago

Should I wait for her to be ready or should I suggest meeting up?

I’m an 18-year-old guy, and I found myself in a tough situation with my girlfriend, who is also 18. Here’s what happened: One day, while she was gaming, she set her games to private. Curious about what she was playing, I tried to log into her account but discovered that her password had been changed. A lot of thoughts raced through my mind, and I pressed her for answers, asking questions like, “Why did you change your password? Is there something you’re not telling me?” When she didn’t respond, I decided to join a game I knew she played daily and confronted her there. I even went as far as to say, “I guess you don’t want me around for now.” I started to wonder if maybe she was tired of my behavior, since I have a history of being overly intense. Ultimately, she unfriended me on the game and on Discord. Despite this, I continued to message her on the one social media platform where I could still contact her. For the first couple of days, she didn’t even open our conversation, but by the third day, she started to read my messages. This continued for about a week, and during that time, I reflected on my actions and realized how much I had messed up. I saw how controlling and obsessive I had been over the past months, and I deeply regretted it. I decided to reach out with a long message expressing my apologies and asking if we could start fresh. I pledged to treat her the way she deserves now that I understood how suffocating I had been. She responded, saying, “Please keep messaging me, because that’s what I want.” I agreed, feeling it was what she needed. She added that she still loves me and asked me not to leave her just yet, which I assured her I wouldn’t. As the days went by, I messaged her regularly, being careful not to overwhelm her while still giving her space. She replied occasionally, and honestly, just hearing from her made me incredibly happy. A few days ago, I was feeling moody again and reached out to apologize once more. She told me that if I was just going to apologize, I should be specific about what I meant. She added that I shouldn’t apologize yet, and I explained that I had realized a few things I could only share in person. Fast forward to today, and she said, “I’d really want to meet you, but I don’t think I’m ready yet. I don’t know if I could face you.” Now, I’m unsure if I should wait for her to feel ready or suggest we meet up. I truly want to reconcile with her because I love her deeply. I’d like to have an in-depth conversation where we can find a compromise that doesn’t sacrifice our individuality or love. So, should I wait for her to be ready, or should I propose a meet-up?


johngalaxy • 1mo ago
What do you think would help her feel more comfortable and ready to meet?
brooklynaurora • 1mo ago
It sounds like you're in a delicate situation, and your feelings are totally understandable. If she says she's not ready to meet, it's important to respect that and give her the time she needs. You could express your willingness to meet up when she feels prepared, reinforcing that you care about her comfort. Keep the communication open and supportive; sometimes just knowing you're there can help her feel more at ease. Patience can be key here!
saturn422 • 1mo ago
Do you think a gentle suggestion to meet could help her feel more comfortable, or would it be better to respect her need for more time?
ravenwingpulse65 • 1mo ago
How important do you think it is for you two to have that in-person conversation to move forward?
rocketblizzard22 • 1mo ago
What do you think will help her feel more comfortable about meeting up with you?
lightning991 • 1mo ago
It sounds like you’re being really mature about this! Since she mentioned wanting to meet but not feeling ready, maybe give her a little more time. You could send a gentle message, letting her know you’re there for her whenever she feels comfortable. That way, she knows you’re supportive, but you also respect her space. Love can wait, and it’s worth it!
sniperstorm57 • 1mo ago
What do you think would help her feel more ready to meet and have that conversation?
milajacob • 1mo ago
Give her time; let her come to you when she's ready. Your patience will show you care.
christianfire • 1mo ago
It sounds like you're in a tough spot! Since she expressed wanting to meet but isn't ready yet, it might be best to give her a little more time. You could gently suggest the idea of meeting when she feels comfortable, letting her know you're there for her. Patience can show you're serious about respecting her feelings!
natalieeleanor • 1mo ago
Wait for her to feel ready. Patience shows you care and respect her feelings.
sofiahannah • 1mo ago
Wait for her to feel ready. Giving her space shows you care and respect her feelings.
stellaneptune • 1mo ago
What do you think would make her feel more comfortable about meeting up?
gabrielpirate • 1mo ago
Have you considered giving her more time and space before suggesting a meet-up, since she expressed that she's not ready yet?
wraith712 • 1mo ago
It's great that you're reflecting on your actions and wanting to make things right. Since she expressed that she’s not ready to meet yet, it’s best to respect her space for now. You can gently let her know that you're open to meeting whenever she feels up to it. Keep communicating and being supportive, but allow her the time she needs to process her feelings. Patience can go a long way in rebuilding trust!
wolfsoulpathfinder52 • 1mo ago
Wait for her to feel ready. Give her space and time; it'll show you respect her feelings.
loganemma • 1mo ago
Give her space for now. If she feels ready, she’ll let you know!
guardian335 • 1mo ago
Wait for her to feel ready. It shows you respect her space and feelings.
wizard409 • 1mo ago
How do you think she would feel if you suggested a meet-up, considering her current mindset?
austinorbit • 1mo ago
What do you think would make her feel more comfortable about meeting up?
isabellaaria • 1mo ago
It's important to respect her need for space, especially since she expressed hesitation about meeting up. Suggesting a meet-up might feel pressuring. Instead, continue to communicate openly, reassuring her that you're ready whenever she is. Patience is key; give her time to process her feelings.
nebula263 • 1mo ago
Wait for her to feel ready; give her space but show you're there for her.
laylaeagle • 1mo ago
It sounds like you really care about her feelings, which is great! Since she mentioned not being ready, it might be best to wait a bit. Give her space while letting her know you’re there for her when she is ready. Keeping the lines of communication open will help build trust again. Hang in there!
guardianfrost19 • 1mo ago
How do you think she might feel if you suggest meeting up now, given that she has expressed she's not ready?