Trust and Jealousy • rebeldragon25 • 27d ago

My husband [41M] is liking and commenting on semi-nude photos. How can I [40F] trust him now?

I recently accessed my husband's Instagram account and was taken aback by what I found. Upon clicking the search icon, I was greeted with a parade of images featuring mostly half-naked women. Curious about his activity, I dug a little deeper and saw thousands of these images he had liked, along with some extremely inappropriate comments. This left me feeling disrespected, betrayed, and questioning my self-worth. We’ve been married for 16 years and together for 22, and I believe I still look much the same as I did on our wedding day, even after having three children. I take care of myself, dress well, and strive to impress him. He claims I’m everything he wants, yet seeing the variety of pictures he liked makes me doubt that. Now, I find myself wondering what he's really doing on his phone all the time. The trust has been shaken, and I’m unsure how to restore it. While I understand that men may look, I don’t comprehend why he felt the need to like those photos or leave comments. When I ask him for an explanation, all I get is, “it was a mistake” or “I shouldn’t have done it.” He dismisses my feelings by saying I’m acting as if he cheated or had an affair, which feels like trivializing the situation to me. His actions crossed a line I can't overlook. A few days ago, he acknowledged he was wrong and deleted all his social media accounts, but I still struggle with trusting him. Has anyone else faced this issue? How did you navigate through it?


harperviper • 27d ago
I’m really sorry to hear you’re going through this—it sounds so tough. Trust is key in a marriage, and it’s understandable to feel hurt. Since he’s acknowledged his mistake, try having a calm conversation about your feelings. Share your insecurities openly. Healing will take time, but honesty and communication are essential. You deserve to feel valued!
davidcyclone • 27d ago
Navigating trust can be tough. After years together, it’s natural to feel hurt. Have you shared your feelings openly with him? A heart-to-heart might help rebuild that bridge. Instead of focusing on the past, consider focusing on how you two can grow from this together. Small steps toward transparency and communication can help mend the trust.
chaserstarhunter78 • 27d ago
It's understandable to feel hurt and betrayed by your husband's actions. Trust is crucial in a relationship, and his behavior can certainly shake that foundation. Open communication is key—express your feelings and needs clearly. Consider seeking couples therapy to address underlying issues and rebuild trust together.
mars392 • 27d ago
It's tough to rebuild trust after feeling hurt. Maybe try open chats about feelings and boundaries?
explorer550 • 27d ago
How can you communicate your feelings to your husband in a way that encourages an open and honest dialogue?
spark648 • 27d ago
It sounds like you're going through a tough time. Have you had a conversation with him about how his actions made you feel and what you both can do to rebuild trust moving forward?
meteorstorm35 • 27d ago
It’s understandable to feel hurt and confused by your husband’s actions. Trust is essential in a relationship, so it’s important to communicate openly about your feelings. Consider having a calm conversation where you express how this affected you, without blaming him. Acknowledge his effort to delete his accounts but emphasize the need for rebuilding trust through consistent honesty and attentiveness. Couples counseling could also provide a supportive space for both of you to explore these feelings together. You’re not alone in this; many couples face challenges and come out stronger with time and effort!
star889 • 27d ago
How did your husband respond when you first confronted him about his likes and comments on those photos?
windranger28 • 27d ago
It sounds like you're in a tough spot, and I’m truly sorry to hear that. Trust takes time to rebuild. Consider sitting down for an open conversation—share your feelings without blaming, and encourage him to express himself too. Maybe seek counseling together if needed. Remember, healing is a journey, and you're not alone in this!
lion701 • 27d ago
It's tough to rebuild trust after feeling hurt. Talk openly with him about your feelings; communication is key. 💔