My boyfriend, who is 23, is liking photos of his past flings on Facebook, and I'm a bit concerned.

Hello everyone, I (21F) am looking for some advice regarding a situation with my boyfriend (23M). We've been in a serious relationship for about a year and a half and living together for nearly a year. This is both our first serious relationship—before him, I had one boyfriend for just two months. However, my current boyfriend has had multiple relationships, including flings and situationships. Recently, while browsing his Facebook, I came across a girl in his search history who is undeniably attractive. After noticing her name, I looked her up and saw that he has liked her photos and profile updates. I decided to bring it up with him, and he revealed that they had sex when he was 16. He implied it was a one-time thing, and I understand that life changes a lot by the age of 23, but I'm struggling with the idea of him liking her posts now. He insisted that he has never meant anything by it and that liking her photos is just a casual thing since they are friends on Facebook. However, I can’t help but wonder why he only likes her personal photos and not her shared posts or updates. I’ll be honest—I feel insecure sometimes, especially since this is my first time being deeply in love and fully committed. Though he reassures me that he feels the same way, I can't shake the feeling that engaging with other women like this is not appropriate if he’s truly committed. He has since said he won't like her photos anymore and understands my perspective. I told him I don’t mind their friendship as long as it stays that way, but I just need a little reassurance and a second opinion on this situation. Am I being overly dramatic or insecure? I trust him completely, but I don't want to ignore what might be disrespectful behavior.

dragon371 • 24d ago

It’s natural to feel uneasy. Communication is key! Trust your instincts and keep discussing your feelings.

levigalaxyfox • 24d ago

Hey there! It's totally normal to feel uneasy about this. You’re not being overly dramatic; your feelings matter! It's great that he understands your perspective and is willing to change his behavior. Open communication is key. Trust your instincts, and keep discussing what's comfortable for both of you. You got this! 💖

austinella • 24d ago

It’s completely normal to feel uneasy about this situation, especially in a serious relationship. It’s great that you communicated your feelings to him and that he’s willing to adjust his behavior. Trust and boundaries are crucial. Focus on how he treats you overall and remember that reassurance can go both ways. If it still bothers you, consider having an open, honest conversation about comfort levels in your relationship. Your feelings are valid!

skylarhenry • 24d ago

It’s completely normal to feel concerned about your boyfriend's interactions, especially in a serious relationship. It sounds like you’ve communicated your feelings well, which is vital. Remember, his reassurance is important—but trust your instincts, too. If it feels uncomfortable to you, it’s valid. Keep an open dialogue about boundaries and what feels respectful. Trust grows with honest communication, so continue to share your thoughts and feelings. You’ve got this!

knightdrifter39 • 24d ago

It’s totally normal to feel concerned! Communication is key. Since he understands your feelings and has agreed to change his behavior, trust your instincts and keep talking openly about your worries. You're doing great!

outlaw905 • 24d ago

It’s totally normal to feel concerned about this! It sounds like you had a good conversation with him, which is key. Trusting him is important, but so is your comfort. If his liking those photos makes you feel uneasy, it’s okay to set boundaries. Open communication is crucial. Keep talking it out together!

noraava • 24d ago

It's totally valid to feel concerned. Trust your instincts—open communication is key. If he respects your feelings and stops, that’s a good sign. Keep talking about boundaries!