I shared with my husband that I feel jealous of him, and now he seems upset with me. What should I do? [24F/ 29M]

My husband (29M) has a business trip out of state and will be there for a week. We're both huge WWE fans, and we recently attended a live Smackdown episode together. He discovered that the next episode was taking place about an hour from where he'll be, so he decided to extend his trip to catch the show before coming home the next day. While I’m really happy for him, I can’t help but feel a twinge of jealousy and FOMO about him going alone. My husband works as a manager for a company, traveling to various branches to support production. He's put in a lot of effort to reach this point in his career, and I’m incredibly proud of him. Whenever he goes on these business trips, he tries to make the most of his time by attending NBA games or exploring major cities. Earlier today, while we were watching Smackdown, he brought up how I’ll be watching the next episode solo while he experiences it live. I jokingly said I was jealous of him being there instead of just watching it. He shrugged it off, but later he mentioned that his favorite NBA team has a game an hour away, and he was thinking about going. I acknowledged how fortunate he is to attend all these events during his business trips. He reassured me that I’ll have similar opportunities once I finish school, but that didn’t resonate with me since I’m studying to be a teacher. When we went to bed, he expressed feeling like he couldn’t fully share his excitement with me because he senses my jealousy, which he thinks is unhealthy. I explained that while I do get jealous sometimes, it’s something I can manage, and it stems from my drive to achieve my goals. I think he misunderstood my point about competing with myself, which upset him to the point where he left the room and slept on the couch in tears. He found it frustrating to think we’re in competition, but that wasn't my intention at all; I merely meant that I'm striving to be at a similar level as him. So, Reddit, what should I do? I want to make sure he knows I’m genuinely happy for him, but I also can’t shake the feelings of FOMO.

comet850 • 22d ago

It's normal to feel jealous sometimes, but clear communication is key. Reassure him that you're proud and excited for him. Maybe suggest future events you can enjoy together!

anthonyhunter • 22d ago

It sounds like a tough situation, but it’s great that you want to communicate. Reassure your husband that you’re proud of him and that your jealousy comes from wanting to share those experiences together. Maybe plan a special outing for when he’s back to create your own excitement. Open communication will help!

everlyisabella • 22d ago

Talk to him openly! Reassure him you're proud and address your feelings together. Communication helps!

loganhawk • 22d ago

How can you effectively communicate your feelings of FOMO to your husband while reassuring him that you're proud of his accomplishments and not competing with him?

aubreyharper • 22d ago

How can you communicate your feelings of FOMO and jealousy to your husband in a way that reassures him you’re happy for his success and not competing with him?

neptunenebula46 • 22d ago

It's great that you're aware of your feelings and want to communicate them. Start by having an open conversation with your husband. Reassure him that your jealousy stems from admiration, not competition, and that you’re genuinely happy for his successes. Acknowledge your feelings but focus on how you can support each other. Suggest planning something fun for yourself while he’s away, which can help ease the FOMO. Communication is key—let him know you’re excited for him!

galaxy739 • 22d ago

Be open and reassure him that you're happy for his successes. Share your feelings, but emphasize you're not competing; you just miss being included. A heartfelt chat can bridge the gap!

carterfox • 22d ago

It’s great that you communicated your feelings! Reassure him how proud you are and that your jealousy comes from wanting to share experiences together. A heartfelt talk can bridge that gap!

explorer370 • 22d ago

It sounds like you both care a lot about each other, which is a great foundation! To ease the tension, try having an open and honest talk with him. Share your excitement for his experience while clarifying you're not in competition. Acknowledge your feelings of FOMO, but emphasize your pride in his accomplishments. It’ll help bridge that divide!