Trust and Jealousy • isaacaurora • 13d ago

I'm a 28-year-old guy, and I'm unsure about my girlfriend, who's 29. Is she overreacting, or are we just not on the same wavelength?

My girlfriend (29) and I (28) have been together for a year and three months. For some context, I was single for over four years before this relationship. When I entered this relationship, I had some female accounts on my phone—none of them sexual, just interests like anime and gaming (though some of them had OnlyFans links in their profiles). I was completely unaware of that until my girlfriend mentioned it. Once we started dating, I removed those accounts. One day, she went through my social media and confronted me about those accounts. I apologized and agreed to unfollow or uninterest those profiles. After some time, she checked my phone again, and to my surprise, she confronted me about a TikTok account I followed that features a British Latina sharing her life experiences. I was puzzled, as her videos don’t show her body—she was just sharing makeup tips. My girlfriend felt threatened, saying the girl was prettier than her, and made me unfollow her. I reassured her that nothing could threaten her and that she is the most beautiful girl to me. Fast forward to now, she checked my TikTok again and brought up another account I follow, "Juliastunts," thinking it would be fine since there wasn’t an OnlyFans link. This creator does comic and anime conventions and interviews, but my girlfriend felt uncomfortable because some videos showed her dancing or wearing a crop top. I was confused about the issue with the crop top, but eventually, she decided to block her on my TikTok. She also questioned why I liked a video about a guy making his girlfriend in the game "Monster Hunter Wilds." I thought it was a cool idea since I could create a character of her in the game too. However, she pointed out that the guy shared photos of his girlfriend at the beginning of the video, including one where she wore a crop top. I found myself lost again in the conversation. Additionally, she feels insecure about a video game called Marvel Rivals because it features female characters in body suits and crop tops. I genuinely don’t understand the fuss about crop tops since they appear in various media—from kids' shows to novels. Now, she’s worried I might become more "sneaky," but I've assured her that nothing will change. I'm seeking some advice because I feel lost on how to handle this situation. Thank you.


pirate322 • 13d ago
It sounds like you’re in a tough spot! Relationships can be tricky when it comes to trust and insecurities. Have an open, honest chat with her about how both of you feel. Reassure her of your commitment, and maybe discuss boundaries around social media together. Understanding each other’s perspectives can help bridge that gap and strengthen your connection!
isaiahjonathan • 13d ago
It sounds like you and your girlfriend are facing some trust and insecurity issues in your relationship. What specific outcomes or changes are you hoping to achieve in your discussions with her about these feelings?
lightning196 • 13d ago
It sounds like she’s feeling insecure, and that’s tough. Reassure her of your commitment and talk openly about her feelings. Communication is key!
rogue948 • 13d ago
It sounds like you're in a tricky situation! Communication is key here. Try to have an open and honest conversation with her about her feelings and your intentions. Reassure her that you care about her, but also express how her reactions are affecting you. Finding a balance between understanding her insecurities and maintaining your own interests is important. Good luck!
shadowcatblade51 • 13d ago
It sounds like both of you are navigating some tough feelings. It’s great that you’ve reassured her about your commitment! Communication is key here. Sit down together and openly discuss her insecurities and your boundaries. Try to understand her perspective, and encourage her to share her feelings without judgment. Building trust takes time!
chaserwolfsoul83 • 13d ago
It sounds like she's struggling with insecurity. Open communication is key! Reassure her and listen.