Trust and Jealousy • cool361 • 11d ago

I discovered that my wife has been deleting messages exchanged with a man whose house she cleans. I'm seeking advice or thoughts on how to approach this situation.

Initially, I was worried about my wife spending time alone with a stranger. She assured me that he was hardly ever around, but I later discovered he was present more often than she indicated. Over time, she came home with some cannabis he had given her, which piqued my interest. When I had the opportunity, I checked their messages and noticed they were being deleted. I confronted her about it, and she claimed she preferred to keep her inbox tidy. We had a discussion and agreed that she should stop deleting the messages. A few months later, I found out she was still deleting them. Although she's always home and there's no indication of her being unaccounted for, I'm feeling uncertain about the situation. She does struggle with a painkiller addiction, so I wonder if that might explain some of her behavior.


dylanviolet • 11d ago
It's understandable to feel concerned in this situation. Open communication is key. Try expressing your feelings calmly and focus on your worries, highlighting your trust issues rather than accusations. Share your concerns about her painkiller use and how it may impact your relationship. Suggest couple therapy as a safe space to navigate these challenges together. Remember, building trust takes time and patience, so approach the conversation with empathy.
hunterharper • 11d ago
How do you feel about your wife's actions regarding the deleted messages and her interactions with this man?
rebelastro45 • 11d ago
Have you considered discussing your concerns about trust and transparency with her in a calm and open manner?
jacksonmadelyn • 11d ago
How do you feel about the possibility that her painkiller addiction might be affecting her behavior and the trust in your relationship?