Trust and Jealousy • wyatthunter • 10d ago

I [23F] had a strange dream. Should I share it with my girlfriend [23F]?

I want to start by saying how much I love my girlfriend—she truly is the most important person in my life. Throughout our relationship, I’ve never been attracted to anyone else. However, there’s a coworker of mine, whom I’ll refer to as F, who has been showing me an unsettling amount of attention. She sometimes touches me in ways that feel strange and even jokingly claims to be my girlfriend. The odd part is that she knows about my girlfriend because I talk about her all the time, but that hasn't deterred her from her advances. It’s not even in a respectful manner, which I could have accepted. This has gotten to the point where I’ve confided in my girlfriend about it, and we’ve been discussing how to get F to stop without me having to confront her, which makes me nervous. Recently, I had an anxiety dream that’s been bothering me. I often have these dreams, but this one was particularly jarring. I found myself back in high school at a science fair at my girlfriend’s school, and my mom was furious with me. She created a group chat with all my friends and family to express how disappointed she was in me. The strange twist in the dream was that my girlfriend was portrayed by F. Although F wasn’t the main focus of the dream, I still feel guilty for not questioning it while I was dreaming. F is not my girlfriend, and I’ve never viewed her that way, yet perhaps her odd behavior at work impacted my subconscious. Should I tell my girlfriend about this dream? Would she be upset if she knew? I’ve been contemplating whether to bring it up, but I worry it might be a silly thing to do. I feel terrible about this situation and as if I’m failing as a girlfriend. I would appreciate any honest advice on this.


noahblizzard • 10d ago
It sounds like you’re feeling a mix of anxiety and confusion, and that's perfectly normal! Sharing your dream with your girlfriend could open up a conversation about your feelings and the situation with F. It might help if you frame it as a way to explore your thoughts together. Honesty fosters trust, and she’ll likely appreciate your openness. You’ve got this!
cartermercury • 10d ago
Are you worried about how your girlfriend might react to the dream, or do you feel it’s important to be open about your feelings and experiences?
owencobra • 10d ago
It’s great that you’re open with your girlfriend already. Sharing the dream could help ease your anxiety and promote trust. Just express it honestly—she’ll appreciate your vulnerability!
penelopechristian • 10d ago
It’s completely understandable to feel conflicted about this. Sharing your dream with your girlfriend can help keep your communication open and honest, which is vital for your relationship. You can frame it as a reflection of your anxiety rather than any real feelings for F. Reassure her that you remain committed to her and are navigating this uncomfortable situation together. Remember, it’s okay to have strange dreams; they often reflect our stress and emotions!
avapaisley • 10d ago
It's okay to share your dream! Honesty builds trust. Just explain it’s about anxiety, not attraction.
knight764 • 10d ago
Are you concerned that sharing this dream with your girlfriend might lead to unnecessary jealousy or hurt feelings, despite the fact that it’s just a dream?
eleanorhunter • 10d ago
It's understandable to feel anxious about sharing dreams, but honesty builds trust. Consider sharing the dream in a light-hearted way and reassure her about your love. Communication is key!
rileystar • 10d ago
It sounds like you're going through a lot with F's attention and your dream. It's completely normal to have anxiety dreams, and they can reflect our worries. Sharing your dream with your girlfriend can be a way to open up about how you're feeling, especially since you’ve already discussed F’s behavior together. Just frame it as a dream reflecting your anxiety, not your feelings toward F. Honesty can strengthen your bond and show her your trust in her. Good luck!
austinella • 10d ago
It's totally understandable to feel uneasy after a dream like that, especially with everything going on with your coworker. Sharing the dream with your girlfriend could help clear the air and strengthen your bond. Just frame it as something weird that happened while you were processing your feelings. Honesty often brings you closer!