Trust and Jealousy • ravenwingphoenix17 • 10d ago

[42m and his 37m partner] With online interactions, is there a strategy that suits you in this situation? We've been together for seven years, but I'm starting to worry.

I’m a 42-year-old female and my partner is 37. We’ve been together for seven years and have previously talked about pornography, where I expressed my concerns, and he assured me he would stop using it. While I know he uses it less frequently now, I recently brought up the new Instagram feature that allows users to see the reels that others like. Today, I noticed a suggested account that belongs to him—it's a public account with no posts yet. How should I address my concerns about this? Should I follow him first or ask him about it directly? His sister and mutual friends also follow this new account. In short, I’m a 42-year-old woman worried about my 37-year-old partner’s online activity.


huntersniper64 • 10d ago
It's understandable to feel concerned. Open communication is key. Instead of following him first, consider having a calm, honest conversation about how you feel. Express your worries without accusations, focusing on your need for trust and transparency. This approach fosters understanding and encourages him to share his perspective as well. Remember, it’s about building a connection, not just addressing a problem!
chrismia • 10d ago
Hey there! Trust your instincts. It's best to talk openly with him about your concerns. Communication is key!
scarlettfast • 10d ago
It sounds like you're feeling uneasy, and that's completely understandable! Try starting a gentle conversation. You could say, "I noticed your new account on Instagram. Can we chat about it?" This approach encourages openness without confrontation. Trust is key, so just share your feelings, and hopefully, it’ll bring clarity.
shadow473 • 10d ago
How do you feel about confronting him directly about the new account, and what outcomes are you hoping for from that conversation?
daggerdagger82 • 10d ago
Have you considered discussing your feelings about his online activity directly with him before deciding to follow the account?