[32M] My girlfriend [28F] and I have reached a turning point following a significant event during our vacation. I'm seeking guidance on therapy options and how to move forward.

We were on vacation in New York City—my work trip, and she was with me—when one night she became extremely intoxicated. I won’t detail everything, but she became aggressive, caused a scene at the bar, and even threw a drink at me. She then unleashed a barrage of verbal abuse across the room, screaming at me. It was by far the worst I’ve ever seen her, and honestly, it was the most hurtful experience I’ve ever endured. She doesn’t remember much of that night but has admitted it was "the worst thing she's ever done." Her outburst stemmed from her belief that I was flirting with someone else; she struggles with jealousy, a topic we discussed honestly last night, which clarified some of our previous arguments. After the incident, I spoke to her friend to reconstruct what had happened since my girlfriend went from being uncontrollable to calm once her friend explained the situation to her. Security was involved because they sensed we needed to be separated, even though I hadn’t done anything wrong—no retaliation, no anger, nothing. I just wanted to get her coat and take her home. In the Uber ride back, she pleaded for my forgiveness, and I was incredibly upset with her. It’s worth mentioning that we had two more weeks of vacation together after that incident. Surprisingly, we went on to have an amazing time together on the rest of the trip, leaving me confused and conflicted because those days were truly some of our best moments together. I felt deeply in love. However, upon returning home, my girlfriend discovered I had spoken to her friend about the incident, and she became upset, believing I should have “protected” her by keeping it private. This is the same friend who witnessed her outburst. It sparked an argument, during which I emphasized that the situation was already chaotic due to her actions, not because I discussed it. Since that incident, things have become complicated: * We are scheduled to start couples therapy this Friday. * She has shown immense remorse but also insecurity about our relationship. * She’s been very clingy, seeking constant physical affection, wanting to have sex every night, and frequently declaring her love. * I find myself struggling with intrusive thoughts about that night. * I am experiencing delayed anger that didn’t surface initially. I actually forgave her soon after because I recognized the issue was her projection and not me; I believe forgiveness is for one’s own peace of mind. * For the first time, I’ve started to consider what life might be like without her (a thought I dislike). * I’m now aware that her jealousy issues have been contributing to many of our past disputes. **Additional Context:** * I have noticed her jealousy more clearly now; during our trip, she became upset when I returned an hour later from a client dinner with a female colleague. * We have been discussing our future (marriage, kids, moving to New York) more openly than ever, despite everything. * I’ve been moderating my own drinking to "monitor" her, which creates an unusual dynamic. * She has also shared past betrayals that have contributed to her trust issues. * I’m heading to New York for work soon and, honestly, I look forward to the space, though I haven’t mentioned this to her. I chose to give her a second chance because I love her, and I can see she is genuinely trying to change. However, I have many concerns. I’m not seeking revenge; I just want to ensure we don’t regress. I would appreciate any advice, particularly from those who have navigated similar situations or have experience with couples therapy.