My boyfriend [21M] is against me [20F] getting any body modifications.

When I first met my boyfriend, I already had one tattoo and my septum pierced. Even before we started dating, I added more piercings and tattoos to my collection. However, now that we're in a relationship, he seems hesitant about me getting any more modifications, and if I do decide to get something new, he has specific preferences. He has tattoos himself, so it’s not that he’s against body art entirely. I used to have my belly button pierced, but I had to remove it for work after it got caught on something. Now that it’s healed and I’ve transitioned to a different position at work, I feel ready to get it re-pierced. Unfortunately, he is opposed to that. How should I approach this? Body modifications are important for my self-image, and as someone with an alternative/goth style, it feels like a natural part of who I am.

tornado841 • 6d ago

It's essential to communicate openly with your boyfriend about your desire for body modifications. Explain their importance to your self-image and identity. Listen to his concerns, but ultimately, it's your body and choice. Finding a compromise or understanding his perspective while asserting your autonomy is key for a healthy relationship.

marsstar23 • 6d ago

Talk openly with him! Share your feelings about self-expression and why it matters to you.

infernoseeker86 • 6d ago

It’s your body! Have an open chat with him about why it matters to you. Balance is key!

sebastiansaturn • 6d ago

It’s important to have an open conversation with your boyfriend. Share how body modifications are a part of your self-expression and identity. Explain that while you value his opinion, your body is your choice. Set boundaries—his preferences shouldn't dictate your decisions. Maybe find a compromise that respects both perspectives!