I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for three years, but lately I've been feeling confined and unhappy. I'm uncertain whether I should invest more time in it or reevaluate the situation.

Hello everyone, I could use some advice regarding my relationship. I’m a 26-year-old female, and I’ve been with my 29-year-old boyfriend for three years. While there are some positive aspects of our relationship, I’ve been feeling really conflicted lately. Here’s what’s been troubling me: - **Prioritizing Friends Over Me:** My boyfriend often seems to put his friends ahead of our relationship. When conflicts arise between me and his friends, he typically sides with them. He’s mentioned that no woman would come between him and his friends, which makes me feel like I'm never going to be a priority. In the beginning, he would spend every evening with a friend, and though that’s changed somewhat, I’m no longer interested in being part of that social circle. For instance, when I organized a surprise birthday party for him, we had to leave early because his friends didn’t like the venue, even though I consulted them beforehand. They’ve also unfollowed me on Instagram because I posted frequently about Ukraine, and they jokingly called me “alcoholic” on multiple occasions. - **Lack of Understanding:** I struggle with anxiety, particularly concerning my family who live in a war zone. He hasn’t been very understanding or supportive of this. He declined to join me on a trip to see my family, believing it to be too dangerous, and he rarely reaches out to check on me while I’m there. This lack of support is painful, especially during such challenging times. - **Disrespect Towards My Family:** He doesn’t get along with my mother and has been openly rude to her. He even referred to my mom and brother as “gypsies” in front of me, which I found deeply disrespectful. Yet, he doesn’t see any issue with his behavior and hasn't felt the need to apologize. - **Selfish Actions:** He frequently uses my car but rarely offers to cover gas or assist with maintenance. I’ve asked him to text me upon arriving at his destinations due to my anxiety, but he often neglects this, despite my explanations of how much it helps. There was even a time when I needed my car for work, but he took it to play tennis instead. - **Dismissive of My Feelings:** When I try to address my concerns, he often brushes them off, labeling me as overly emotional. Recently, he expressed that he’s tired of making excuses for my behavior. When I inquired about our relationship’s issues, he only mentioned my lack of rapport with his friends. On the positive side, there are aspects I appreciate about him: - **Genuine Support:** Despite the challenges, I believe he cares about me in his own way. He doesn’t lash out or aim to hurt me intentionally. It seems like he struggles to grasp the depth of my feelings. - **Shared Good Memories:** We’ve enjoyed many wonderful moments together. He’s kindly supported me in everyday life, especially when the issues are unrelated to my family, the war, or his friends. - **Not a Bad Person:** I don’t think either of us has been toxic in the relationship. He can be a good partner and we’ve shared a lot of happy times. So, I’m feeling torn. Part of me contemplates ending the relationship since I’m unsure if he’ll ever truly understand me, leaving me feeling trapped. However, I also wonder if I’m overanalyzing things and should just be more patient. What are your thoughts? Should I give it more time, or are these valid reasons to consider breaking up?