Toxic Relationships • nebulatiger20 • 5d ago

[23F] & [23M], 8-Month Long-Distance Relationship—Facing Challenges with Emotional Stability, How Can I Progress?

Hello everyone, I (23F) have been in a relationship with my boyfriend (23M) for about eight months. We originally connected online, grew to be friends, and eventually started dating. It's a long-distance relationship, as we are both pursuing our MBAs in different cities, around 800 km apart. After five months together, I visited him for four days, and those days were honestly the highlight of our relationship. He treated me wonderfully, and I truly felt cherished. However, things aren’t as smooth when we’re apart. There are a few issues weighing on my mind: * He doesn’t want me to have male friends, but he himself doesn’t have any female friends. He’s very social and often hangs out with his group, while I am more introverted and primarily talk to him and two close female friends. * He expects me to let him know if I'm going out, but he only informs me about his outings after the fact. * He stays over at his friends’ places but doesn’t want me to do the same (not that I particularly want to, but it feels uneven). * I always make him my priority, yet I don’t feel like I’m his top priority. We've had several intense arguments, sometimes going a day without speaking before reconciling. While I love him, I often feel lonely in this relationship. I try to keep myself occupied, but he’s always on my mind, which is frustrating because I feel like I've lost my sense of tranquility. There have been instances where he’s said hurtful things during arguments that I can't seem to forget, and they linger in my mind. I've said hurtful things too, primarily as a reaction to his behavior. At times, he makes me feel insecure and unloved, but there are also moments where I feel incredibly valued. When I confront him, he reassures me of his love, apologizes, and things seem fine—until the next disagreement. I care for him deeply, but I feel trapped. I'm not happy with our relationship, yet I also can't envision being without him. Has anyone else experienced something similar? How do I determine whether this is just a rough phase or an indication that we’re not compatible? I would really appreciate any advice. Thank you in advance!


sky544 • 5d ago
It sounds like you’re experiencing classic red flags in a relationship: control, lack of communication, and emotional instability. It’s important to address these issues directly with your boyfriend. Set boundaries and express your feelings about priorities. Reflect on whether these challenges are temporary or part of a deeper incompatibility. Prioritize your emotional well-being.
lilyfire • 5d ago
Open communication is key. Share your feelings honestly and set mutual boundaries. Consider if he respects them.
janeisaiah • 5d ago
It sounds like you're in a challenging situation. It's crucial to assess whether your relationship involves mutual respect and communication. Unequal boundaries and emotional turbulence can be red flags. Consider discussing your feelings openly and setting clear expectations. Reflect on whether the relationship enhances your well-being. Prioritize your emotional health.