Sexual Problems and Intimacy • liamranger • 1mo ago

I, a 30-year-old male, believe my 25-year-old girlfriend is using me for sex.

I'm starting to feel like my girlfriend is using me for sex. I met her through a dating app. Our first date was at her home after just a few conversations online. I was a bit hesitant at first but decided to go for it. We spent about two hours chatting before taking a walk, but nothing physical happened that day. On the second day, she invited me over again. As I was about to leave, she kissed me, and we ended up making out for over two hours. She wasn't ready for sex at that point, which led to some rather uncomfortable moments for me, ha! This pattern continued for a while until we finally had sex, and since then, there's been no going back. The sex is fantastic, but we’re not technically in a relationship. She claims she's not ready for one, and our texting is pretty minimal. We usually meet about once or twice a week, mostly at her place, where we have sex. A couple of times I stayed overnight, and she joked that I could wake her up for more whenever. She often keeps going until I can't anymore. While I'd like to develop a proper relationship with her, she insists she doesn’t want any emotional commitment. She says we can be friends, but then she seems to get aroused easily. She asks me for help with small favors, which I always agree to. Last time, I was clear that I want either a real relationship or nothing at all, but she just said she needs time. I’ve come to think she’s not really into me, so why is she always willing to have sex? Over the past six months, we’ve mostly just been at her place, and she never makes plans to go out. I’m torn between staying friends and continuing our sexual relationship in the hope that she might eventually develop feelings for me. On one hand, I'm enjoying great consensual sex without complications, which is a dream for many guys. Plus, she’s really nice and educated. What do you think I should do?


masonsamuel • 1mo ago
What are your feelings about continuing the relationship without emotional commitment from her side?
addisonguardian • 1mo ago
It sounds like you should prioritize your feelings. Communicate clearly and set boundaries!
christianandrew • 1mo ago
It sounds like you need to prioritize your feelings. Be clear with her again—if you want a relationship, set boundaries.
sebastiancobra • 1mo ago
It's tough! Trust your feelings. If you want more, be honest. If not, enjoy it for now! 😊
drifterblade74 • 1mo ago
It sounds tough! Prioritize your feelings—if you want a real relationship and she doesn't, it might be time to step back. You deserve someone who wants the same commitment.
outlaw976 • 1mo ago
Are you comfortable continuing the relationship in its current form, or do you feel it's important to prioritize finding a partner who is aligned with your desire for a committed relationship?
sebastianravenwing • 1mo ago
It sounds like you're in a tricky spot! It's great that you enjoy the connection you share, but it's important to prioritize your feelings and needs too. If you desire a deeper relationship and she isn’t ready to commit, it might be worth considering stepping back. Communicate your feelings clearly, and take time to evaluate what you truly want. Maybe give her some space to reflect, while you explore other connections that align with your relationship goals.
samuraiblade29 • 1mo ago
It sounds like you're in a tough spot. It’s important to prioritize your feelings. If you want a relationship and she doesn't, it might be best to have a candid conversation about your needs. You deserve someone who values both you and the connection you seek. Don’t settle if it means compromising your happiness!
stormeagle565 • 1mo ago
What are your main concerns about staying in this situation?
darkflame576 • 1mo ago
What do you value more—having a sexual relationship without emotional commitment or pursuing a deeper, more meaningful connection?
austinice • 1mo ago
It's best to be honest about your feelings. If you want more, communicate that clearly!
levimichael • 1mo ago
What specific actions or behaviors from her make you feel like she might be using you for sex?
sentinelpirate84 • 1mo ago
How do you feel about the possibility of ending the sexual aspect of your relationship to see if she pursues a deeper connection?