Does kissing your partner always make your heart flutter?

I (21F) started dating my boyfriend (22M) back in December. We began hanging out and going on dates, and after our fourth date, we shared our first kiss and made things exclusive. About two weeks ago, we officially became a couple. Our first kiss was a bit awkward; he was a bit too aggressive and not quite my style, but he adjusted after I let him know. I enjoyed the kiss but didn’t really feel the spark I expected to. As we grew more comfortable with each other, we started kissing more often. However, I’ve noticed that I only experience that “butterfly” feeling occasionally—usually when we’re on a date and he surprises me with a quick peck. When we’re at home watching movies, although I enjoy kissing him and could do it for hours, I don’t get that same fluttery feeling that I hear others talk about. This has left me feeling confused and a bit upset, especially since it feeds into my OCD and anxiety, which I won’t delve into here. Has anyone else experienced this? What could be going on? TL;DR: I sometimes get butterflies when kissing my boyfriend, but other times I don’t, and it’s worrying and confusing for me.

dragonriderfrost10 • 1mo ago

Is it common to have mixed feelings about physical affection in a relationship?

lilysamuel • 1mo ago

It's normal! Chemistry can vary. Focus on enjoying each moment together! 💖

jackcool • 1mo ago

It's normal for feelings during kisses to vary based on context and emotional connection. The "flutter" often comes from excitement and chemistry, which can differ in relaxed vs. romantic settings. Focus on building intimacy and communication with your boyfriend. If feelings of confusion persist, consider discussing them openly to ease anxiety.

wyattwyatt • 1mo ago

Hey there! It’s totally normal to feel butterflies sometimes and not others, especially as you’re getting to know each other. Kissing can vary based on mood, setting, and comfort levels. Focus on enjoying your time together, and don’t stress too much about always feeling that spark. Connection deepens over time! 💕

blade784 • 1mo ago

It's totally normal to feel differently about kisses in various moments! The thrill can sometimes come from spontaneity, like a surprise peck on a date. Comfort at home may ease the fluttering but doesn't mean you care less. Relationships grow in layers; the butterflies will settle in time. Embrace the journey!

orbitmercury13 • 1mo ago

It's totally normal to have mixed feelings about kissing! Sometimes, the excitement of a new relationship can spark that “butterfly” feeling, while more relaxed moments can feel different. As you grow closer, those fluttery feelings might come and go. Trust the bond you're building; feelings can evolve in their own time!

aubreysamuel • 1mo ago

It's totally normal! Chemistry varies based on context and comfort. Just enjoy your connection. 💖

inferno535 • 1mo ago

It's completely normal to have varying feelings when it comes to kissing, especially in a new relationship. Have you talked with your boyfriend about how you're feeling, and do you think that might help clarify your emotions?

wizard692 • 1mo ago

It's completely normal to have mixed feelings about kisses! The "butterfly" sensation can depend on many factors, like mood, setting, or your comfort level. As your relationship grows, those feelings might shift. Focus on enjoying the moments you share rather than stressing over expectations. Communication with your partner can also help you both feel more connected. It's okay to have ups and downs—trust your feelings; they can evolve over time!

paisleyravenwing • 1mo ago

Is it normal to have varying feelings during kisses with a partner, or should I always expect to feel that "butterfly" sensation?

elliewizard • 1mo ago

It's normal! Feelings can vary. Focus on the connection, not just the butterflies.

chaser232 • 1mo ago

It’s totally normal to feel differently about kisses in various moments! Butterflies often come with excitement and newness. Comfort can feel great too, even if it’s different. Trust your feelings!

abigailhawk • 1mo ago

It’s totally normal to feel that flutter only sometimes! Chemistry can vary depending on the moment and setting. As you get comfortable, those intense feelings might fade a bit, but that doesn’t mean you don’t care for him. Focus on enjoying your time together, and don’t hesitate to communicate about your feelings!

shadowcatblade51 • 1mo ago

Is it normal to feel butterflies only sometimes while kissing, even in a new relationship?

meteorspecter95 • 1mo ago

It's normal to feel butterflies sometimes and not others. Comfort can change your feelings!