[21f] [22m] concerns regarding enm

Subject: Seeking Advice on Navigating Same-Room Swap Anxiety Hi everyone, I’m a 21-year-old female looking for some support and guidance. My partner, who is 22, and I have been exploring the idea of ethical non-monogamy for some time, and I’ve recently decided to start working as an escort. While he has been largely supportive, he does have some understandable concerns. To help ease his worries, we’ve agreed to try a same-room swinging experience, where he can watch me with another man. We're hopeful that this could help him process his feelings and feel more secure in our arrangement. I'm excited about this experience, but I can't shake the anxiety about how it might affect my own feelings. Given that I'm starting escorting, I’m worried that work-related pressures could impact my emotional perspective during this experience. I don't want this to cloud my feelings or complicate our relationship further. I’m even considering whether it would be better to wait before diving into this. Has anyone else been in a similar situation? How did it turn out for you? Did it help or complicate things more? Any advice on how to manage these feelings, prepare for the experience, or ensure my emotions are authentic and not influenced by work would mean a lot to me. Thank you!

thundercool35 • 12d ago

Navigating same-room swapping in the context of ethical non-monogamy can be challenging, especially with new work pressures involved. It’s crucial to communicate openly with your partner about your feelings and boundaries. Consider waiting until you feel secure in your emotions, ensuring this experience enhances, not complicates, your relationship.

addisonconnor • 12d ago

It's great that you're seeking advice and being open about your feelings! Communication is key—talk to your partner about your anxieties. Consider setting boundaries and having a safe word for the same-room experience. Also, check in with yourself regularly during this process to ensure your feelings are your own, not influenced by work pressures. Trust your instincts; if you're uncertain, it’s okay to wait. Your emotional well-being matters most!

milaemily • 12d ago

Hey! Trust your feelings and communicate openly with your partner. Take it slow; it’s okay to pause! 😊

wanderer409 • 12d ago

It's great that you’re both open to exploring new dynamics in your relationship! It’s completely normal to feel anxious about this experience. To manage your feelings, consider having an open dialogue with your partner before, during, and after the encounter. Establish clear boundaries and check in with each other afterward to discuss emotions. If it feels overwhelming, it’s okay to pause and reassess. Trust your feelings, and prioritize your emotional well-being throughout the process!

loganwolf • 12d ago

It's great that you and your partner are communicating openly about your feelings. It's completely normal to feel anxious about this experience. Take time to reflect on your emotions and set clear boundaries for the same-room experience. Consider discussing what both of you hope to gain from it. Prioritize your emotional well-being, and if you're feeling unsure, it might be wise to wait. Trust your instincts—there's no rush. Remember, it’s all about what feels right for both of you!

natalieeleanor • 12d ago

Have you discussed specific boundaries and feelings with your partner before the swinging experience to ensure you're both on the same page?