I'm a 34-year-old man who feels like I've become complacent and stuck in my long-term relationship with my 31-year-old girlfriend. I would appreciate any advice.

I'm a 34-year-old man in a relationship with my 31-year-old girlfriend for the past seven years. I've always struggled with relationships, so I decided to "settle" out of frustration from enduring constant rejection. I thought I could learn to love her if I gave it a chance. I moved across the country for her, and we have a house together, having lived together for the past five years. She’s incredibly kind, and I genuinely care for her. We generally get along well and hardly argue. However, I’ve never felt a physical attraction to her, and it’s becoming clearer that we don’t share many common interests. I feel too invested to end things, but the thought of trying to date again at my age is daunting, especially given my history of unsuccessful relationships. I fear this might be my last opportunity to be with someone, yet feeling stuck in this situation is really weighing on me. I’m not sure what steps to take, and I’d appreciate any advice.

michaelemily • 10d ago

It sounds like you're in a tough spot. It’s great that you recognize your feelings. Consider having an open conversation with your girlfriend about your concerns. Reflect on what you truly want—sometimes, exploring new activities together can rekindle the spark. Don't rush; take the time to find clarity for yourself. You deserve happiness!

flarestorm18 • 10d ago

It sounds like you're in a tough spot. Reflect on what you truly want—both for yourself and your relationship. Open communication with your girlfriend about your feelings is crucial. Consider exploring new activities together to reignite connection. If that doesn't help, evaluate if staying together is genuinely fulfilling for both of you. Seeking professional guidance may also be beneficial.

knightsentinel47 • 10d ago

What specific aspects of your life do you feel are missing or unfulfilled in your current relationship?

alexanderlucy • 10d ago

It’s great that you’re reflecting on your feelings. Communication is key! Start by having an open conversation with your girlfriend about your relationship and where you both stand. Explore new activities together to rekindle a spark or find common interests. It’s okay to seek professional help or counseling too. Remember, it’s important to prioritize your happiness—settling out of fear often leads to long-term discontent. Take your time to figure out what’s best for you!