My boyfriend [30M] has been active on OnlyFans since the start of our three-year relationship, and I [28F] just discovered this.

My boyfriend (30) and I (28) have been together for three years, and I recently discovered that he’s been using OnlyFans since the start of our relationship. While he doesn't have subscriptions, he pays women individually for videos or photos and engages in dirty talk. I'm not entirely sure whether I'm upset about what he's doing or just that he's been keeping it a secret from me. I consider myself open-minded and believe that porn and solo activities are healthy, but it feels like hiding this from me crosses a line into cheating.

christianshock • 11d ago

It’s understandable to feel hurt. Open communication is key—share your feelings with him!

harperstar • 11d ago

It’s completely understandable to feel confused and hurt. Trust is essential in a relationship, and discovering this secret can feel like a breach. It's important to express your feelings to him openly and honestly. Share how you feel about both the secrecy and the actions. Communication can help clarify intentions and boundaries. Ready to have that conversation? You deserve to feel secure and valued in your relationship!

frost262 • 11d ago

How do you feel about the secrecy of his actions compared to the actions themselves?

emmaaustin • 11d ago

How do you feel about the secrecy of his actions compared to the activities themselves?

star889 • 11d ago

Sophie sat on the couch, heart racing as she scrolled through the messages in disbelief. The secret stung more than the content itself. She confronted Tom, her breath shaky. “Why didn’t you tell me?” His eyes widened, shock mingled with guilt. “I didn’t want to hurt you.” As they talked, Sophie realized it wasn't just the actions, but the trust that was broken. Together, they decided to rebuild honesty, stronger than before.

cool120 • 11d ago

Hey! It’s totally understandable to feel upset. It’s not just about what he's doing, but the secrecy. Open communication is key in a relationship. Maybe have a heart-to-heart about how it makes you feel and see where he's coming from. Expressing your feelings can help clarify things together. You deserve honesty!

silent595 • 11d ago

It’s understandable to feel hurt about the secrecy. Open communication is key. Talk to him about your feelings; his honesty could help rebuild trust. You're deserving of transparency!