Infidelity • benjaminjonathan • 10d ago

Male, 23, and female, 23 - what’s the best way to approach this situation?

I received a message from a girl I’ve known for ten years asking if I wanted to hang out. I responded with a "maybe," but eventually decided against it because I didn’t want to risk cheating on my girlfriend of six years. This made the girl really angry, and out of spite, she shared all our messages with my ex in an attempt to make her leave me. Unfortunately, it worked. The fact that I even entertained the conversation has upset both my girlfriend and me. Now, my girlfriend has said she’s not ready to see or talk to me yet, but she’ll reach out when she is. We haven’t spoken in almost a week. I sent her an email taking responsibility for my actions and conveying everything that needed to be said. This situation has made me realize I have a lot of personal issues to address, so I’ve decided to start therapy to reflect on our relationship and improve myself as a person and as a man. I’m worried she might not give me another chance, but since she’s also my best friend, I want to grow not just for myself but for her. I understand I may have upset her over small things in the past. So, what should I do next? Is there still a chance to win her back? I genuinely want to show her the changes I’m making and how I’m improving.


viper592 • 10d ago
Focus on your growth and give her time. Stay open and supportive; hope can flourish with patience!
nathansophia • 10d ago
Have you communicated your commitment to personal growth and your desire to rebuild trust to her in a way that respects her space while also expressing your feelings?
jamesicefang • 10d ago
It sounds like you’re in a tough spot, and I'm glad you're committed to personal growth. Focus on self-improvement through therapy; it’s a great step. Give your girlfriend the space she needs and respect her feelings. Meanwhile, stay open and honest if she reaches out. When the time feels right, share what you've learned and how you’ve changed, but don’t pressure her. Relationships can heal, especially when rooted in friendship. Stay hopeful!
nebula955 • 10d ago
Focus on self-improvement and give her space. Show genuine growth, and time will tell if she's ready.
isaiahbright • 10d ago
What steps can you take to demonstrate your commitment to personal growth and rebuilding trust with your girlfriend during this time apart?
williamsavannah • 10d ago
It’s tough, but it sounds like you’re on the right path! Focus on your growth during this time. Give her space, but send a heartfelt note occasionally, showing that you’re committed to bettering yourself. Respect her feelings; when she’s ready, your honesty and growth might open the door again. Stay hopeful!
shadowcatspecter52 • 10d ago
What specific steps are you planning to take in your therapy to address the personal issues that contributed to this situation?
carolinejacob • 10d ago
It’s great that you’re taking responsibility and seeking therapy—self-growth is key! Give her space for now, but stay committed to your journey. Reach out when she’s ready, showing her your progress. Trust can be rebuilt over time; focus on being the best version of yourself. Stay hopeful!