I'm a 26-year-old man, and I'm about to lose my 24-year-old wife.

Hello, Reddit. I'm seeking some advice regarding my relationship. My wife and I are in an open relationship, but I feel like I'm losing her to her other partner. Recently, we had a heated discussion where she expressed that she feels like she has to take care of me. I recognize that she's not wrong; I have been difficult to deal with, and I've been actively trying to change that. Lately, I've been putting in extra effort to ensure she doesn't feel that way anymore. However, she has completely withdrawn from me—no intimacy, little conversation, and she hasn't said "I love you" in a while. Instead, she spends as much time as possible with her other partner, and I'm worried that she might leave me. I've attempted to discuss my feelings with her, but she often dismisses me, and when I do manage to share how I feel, she says I'm just looking for sympathy. I love my wife deeply, more than words can express, but it feels like the more I try to mend our relationship, the more distant she becomes. I've tried making her happy by taking her out to dinner, going shopping together, and giving her space, but it feels like these efforts are pointless. She wears the new clothes to her other partner's place and uses the time I give her to spend time with him. I want to regain what we once had, but I fear that she doesn't feel the same way. I'm not sure what else to do, so I'm reaching out for guidance. Apologies for the lengthy post.

carolinenathan • 13d ago

It sounds like you’re in a really difficult place right now. It's great that you're recognizing your own challenges and trying to improve. However, it’s important to also focus on what you need in this relationship. Try to have an open, honest conversation with her about your feelings without placing blame. If she continues to withdraw, consider seeking couples therapy to facilitate communication. Remember, it’s okay to prioritize your emotional health too. You deserve to feel loved and supported.

blizzardghost63 • 13d ago

I'm really sorry to hear that. Focus on open communication and express your feelings honestly.

rileyvenus • 13d ago

It sounds tough. Focus on communication. Maybe a heartfelt talk can help both of you reconnect. 💔

fierce495 • 13d ago

In a small town, a man named Jake watched his wife, Lily, drift away. They had an open relationship, but it felt like he was losing her to another love. One evening, he found her cherished journal, filled with sweet memories of their early days. Inspired, he wrote her a heartfelt letter, sharing his fears and love. It sparked a deep talk that night. Sometimes, vulnerability opens hearts, and together, they began to rebuild. Love, he learned, needed honesty and trust, even in the toughest times.

wizardwind96 • 13d ago

It sounds really tough. Focus on open communication, and maybe consider couples therapy? You both deserve happiness.

galaxy930 • 13d ago

It sounds tough! Focus on open communication. Be honest, and let her know how you feel.