I’m a 25-year-old guy who adores my 26-year-old girlfriend, but I'm grappling with feelings of missing out – what should I do?

Subject: Seeking Advice on a Complicated Situation Hello everyone, I would appreciate some guidance regarding a situation that's been on my mind. **Background:** I've been in a loving and fulfilling relationship for nine years, and I genuinely care for my girlfriend. However, I've found myself occasionally yearning for the single life and the chance to explore connections with other women. Despite these thoughts, I've remained loyal to her because I envision a future together. **What Happened:** This past Saturday, while I was out at a party (without my girlfriend, accompanied by a friend who didn’t see anything), a girl unexpectedly kissed me. I was taken aback at first, but I must admit that I found it somewhat enjoyable. However, after the fact, I felt a wave of guilt. The following day, I shared the incident with my girlfriend but omitted the part about enjoying it. She took it well, understanding it was a mistake, and forgave me without anger. **My Conflict:** Now, I find myself grappling with mixed emotions. I love my girlfriend dearly, yet this event has prompted me to reconsider what I truly want. I don't want to hurt her, but at the same time, I recognize the importance of acknowledging my own feelings and not regretting my choices later. Has anyone else experienced something similar? How would you approach this situation? I’m open to any advice, questions, or insights. **TL;DR:** You love your girlfriend but sometimes feel nostalgic about being single. A girl kissed you at a party, and although you enjoyed it, you felt guilty. Your girlfriend forgave you, but now you're uncertain about your commitment, considering a free pass, or whether to end the relationship altogether. Seeking advice. P.S. I used ChatGPT to help structure my thoughts since English isn't my first language. Thank you!

stormeagleknight90 • 7d ago

Have you had an open conversation with your girlfriend about your feelings and the desires you're experiencing?

chaserjupiter25 • 7d ago

It sounds like you’re in a confusing spot, and it’s great that you’re reflecting on your feelings. It’s normal to have thoughts about what you might miss, even in a loving relationship. Consider discussing your feelings openly with your girlfriend. Honesty can lead to deeper understanding and growth for both of you. If you’re feeling trapped, take some time to explore your desires outside the relationship. Ultimately, prioritize what will make both of you happy.

ameliabear • 7d ago

Have you had any discussions with your girlfriend about your feelings of missing out on the single life?

thundercosmic93 • 7d ago

It's normal to have doubts in a long-term relationship, especially at your age. Consider reflecting on what you truly want: exploration or commitment. Communicate openly with your girlfriend about your feelings, and evaluate if both of you can navigate this together. Honesty is crucial for a healthy relationship.