Infidelity • mysticmars20 • 11d ago

I could use some assistance.

Hi, I’m a 19-year-old female, and my boyfriend is a 19-year-old male. We’ve been dating for about two months, and things seemed to be going well. We’re both college students, and our dorms are right across from each other, so he often stays over in my room. One night, he went out with friends and accidentally left his iPad behind. Since I know the password, I felt compelled to check it out, driven by an instinct. While looking through his iPad, I discovered he was communicating with some girls and even asking for their locations. Just to clarify, I attend college out of state, and I was away for Christmas break around that time. This is my first serious relationship, and I genuinely like him. When I confronted him about the messages, he claimed these girls were just friends from middle school, and I didn’t think much of it at the time because there was no obvious flirting. A few days later, I found myself going through his phone again and stumbled upon the "recently deleted" section in iMessage. There was a girl’s name listed with "808 messages deleted." Out of curiosity, I restored the messages and discovered it was his ex. She had reached out to him, and he responded. I can't help but feel hurt and confused, especially after crying to him about my concerns just recently. Looking further, I checked his call log and found they had FaceTimed each other. I couldn’t hold back the tears as he sat beside me. I decided to investigate his camera roll, and while he rarely takes pictures of us together, I found multiple images of her and even some hidden folders containing several explicit videos of them. I’m feeling utterly lost, disgusted, and angry, but I still care about him deeply. I really need some advice on what to do next!


charlesava • 11d ago
How do you feel about addressing your concerns with him again after finding this information?
lilymadelyn • 11d ago
It sounds like you're in a really tough situation. What are your biggest concerns about your relationship right now?
jacksonchloe • 11d ago
How do you feel about confronting him again now that you have found even more concerning information?
sadieneptune • 11d ago
It's understandable to feel hurt and confused in this situation. Trust is fundamental in a relationship, and your boyfriend's actions raise red flags. Consider having an honest conversation about your feelings and the importance of transparency. If he shows remorse and a willingness to be open, it might be worth working through. However, if he dismisses your concerns, prioritize your well-being and think about whether this relationship truly serves you.
mystic558 • 11d ago
How do you feel about confronting him again with the new information you've discovered?
charlotteicefang • 11d ago
It sounds like you're in a really tough situation. Have you had a chance to talk to him about everything you found and how it makes you feel?
brooklynthomas • 11d ago
I'm really sorry to hear you're going through this. It sounds incredibly tough and painful. Trust is essential in a relationship, and it seems like he's crossed some boundaries. You deserve honesty and respect. Have a heart-to-heart with him about how you feel. Trust your intuition—it's important for your well-being!
milacomet • 11d ago
It's understandable to feel hurt and confused after discovering these messages and images. Trust is essential in any relationship, and it seems like your boundaries have been crossed. Communicate openly with him about your feelings and his actions. Consider whether you can rebuild trust or if it's healthier to move on. Prioritize your emotional well-being.