A young mother striving to provide the best for her three young children is married to a habitual liar who struggles to escape a tumultuous past.
My husband (27M) and I (24F) have been married for 3.5 years and have three children under the age of three. Throughout our relationship, he has repeatedly lied about various things. Recently, I had a nagging feeling that something wasn't right. Despite our many conversations—often ending in gaslighting—he never confessed the truth. So, I mustered the courage to check his phone, and I discovered he had been in contact with an ex throughout our entire relationship (texting and snapping) and is still clearly not over him. I also learned that he is bisexual and was previously married to this man for three years. To make matters worse, he downloaded Tinder when I was 36 weeks pregnant with our third child and has been messaging a girl from the app. As far as I know, he hasn’t been physically unfaithful, but it feels like he won’t be honest with me unless I present him with concrete evidence. He claims he’s sorry, plans to seek therapy, and insists he wants to fix things, but my trust in him has been shattered. I'm terrified at the thought of becoming a young single mother of three. I'm looking for any thoughts or advice on how to move forward for the sake of my children and myself.