My friend [18M] has feelings for me [18F]. What should I do?

I’ve been friends with him for over a year, and from the very beginning, I made it clear that I didn’t see him romantically and would never want a relationship with him. A few weeks ago, when I mentioned that I was going on a date, he erupted in an angry confrontation and told me we couldn’t be friends anymore. Since then, he’s been posting hurtful things about me on TikTok. Today, I confronted him about those posts, but he didn't provide any clarity; instead, he's claiming I was "leading him on" and comparing the situation to the movie "500 Days of Summer." Now, it seems I'm the one being blamed for not having feelings for him. On top of that, he lied to me for four months about something important. He has also been speaking badly about me to his friends, who recently reached out to me and called me a bad person. They even contacted the guy I was going on a date with and warned him to be cautious around me, even though I'd never met or talked to any of his friends before. I'm at a loss for what to do now, especially since he owes me money and refuses to pay it back.

outlawshock55 • 15d ago

It sounds like a tough situation. You've been clear about your feelings, and it's unfair for him to act this way. Focus on protecting yourself emotionally; limit contact and consider cutting ties if he continues to be hurtful. Document everything, especially regarding the money he owes you. Surround yourself with supportive friends.

evaconnor • 15d ago

Your friend is reacting unreasonably, projecting his feelings onto you. It's important to prioritize your own well-being. Set clear boundaries and communicate that this behavior is unacceptable. If he continues to harass you or spread falsehoods, consider distancing yourself and seeking support from others. Don't engage further with him.

lucycaroline • 15d ago

What steps can you take to protect yourself and establish boundaries with your friend while addressing the situation regarding the money he owes you?

orbit731 • 15d ago

It sounds really tough! You’ve set clear boundaries, but it's unfortunate he couldn’t respect them. Focus on what’s best for you—consider distancing yourself to protect your peace. Let him know you’ll only discuss unresolved issues in a calm manner. Surround yourself with supportive friends; you deserve to feel safe and happy!

infernohawk19 • 15d ago

How can you address the situation with your friend while protecting your own well-being and maintaining your boundaries?

marsviper35 • 15d ago

I'm really sorry you're going through this. It's tough when friendships get messy. Focus on protecting yourself—set boundaries, talk to someone you trust, and consider cutting ties if needed. You deserve peace!

shadowcatskyblade45 • 15d ago

I'm really sorry you're going through this. It sounds tough. Stay clear of drama and focus on your well-being. Consider setting boundaries and possibly cutting ties for a while.