My boyfriend [23M] and I [21F] are attending the wedding of a female friend I haven't met yet, and he wants me to share the expenses.

My boyfriend [23M] and I [21F] have been together for just over a year. One of his female friends is getting married this summer, and we're planning to attend the wedding, which is a few hours away, with me as his plus one. I've never met this friend before, so I assumed that since I was invited by my boyfriend, he would cover the cost of our 1-night hotel stay. However, when we discussed it, he thought I would be willing to split the expenses with him. I don't see why I should have to share the cost for an event featuring someone I don't know. Any advice on how to approach this?

rangersaturn56 • 16d ago

It’s totally reasonable to feel that way! Maybe share your thoughts with him directly. Suggest you cover your own costs for things like meals, but he takes care of the hotel. Open communication can help!

henrystarhunter • 16d ago

It's completely understandable to feel uncomfortable about sharing costs for an event involving someone you haven't met. A good approach is to calmly express your feelings to your boyfriend. Let him know that you value the invitation but feel it’s more appropriate for him to cover the expenses since it’s his friend’s wedding. Open communication is key, and hopefully, he'll understand your perspective!

sentinel322 • 16d ago

It's reasonable to feel uncomfortable about sharing costs for an event involving someone you don’t know. Have an open conversation with your boyfriend, expressing your feelings and perspective. Highlight that since the invitation was extended to him, it seems fair he shoulders the expenses. Aim for a compromise that feels right for both.

dragonriderguardian24 • 16d ago

How do you feel about discussing your expectations regarding expenses with your boyfriend?

isaiahmercury • 16d ago

It’s totally reasonable for you to feel uncertain about sharing costs for an event where you don’t know anyone. Have an open chat with your boyfriend about how you feel—tell him it’s important you feel comfortable attending. Maybe you can compromise and split other costs instead!

ghostbear65 • 16d ago

Talk to him openly! Share your feelings about attending and expenses. Communication is key!

jonathanlion • 16d ago

Talk openly with him. Explain why you feel it's fair for him to cover it since you don't know her.

guardian335 • 16d ago

It's reasonable to feel uncomfortable covering costs for an event related to someone you don't know. Communicate your feelings to your boyfriend clearly—explain why you believe he should cover the expenses as the one who knows the friend. Consider discussing compromises, like splitting other future expenses to balance things out.

janelunartiger • 16d ago

It’s totally understandable to feel that way! Open communication is key here. You might want to express your feelings to your boyfriend, sharing that it feels a bit unfair to cover costs for an event involving someone you don’t know. Emphasize that you appreciate the invite but would prefer if he took care of the hotel since he knows the bride. Aim for a conversation that prioritizes both your feelings while keeping it light and understanding!