My 30-year-old girlfriend, who is 27, is not interested in relocating for a job opportunity.

I'm 30 years old and a few years post-graduation. I met my girlfriend while we were both in school, during a time when I wasn't earning a salary. After graduating, I landed a job 2.5 hours away in the top company in my field, which offers a starting salary of $450,000 along with annual raises of about $75,000. In contrast, jobs in our home state would pay roughly a third of that. She is currently employed on the opposite side of the state, still in the job she held when we first met, and earns about $120,000. She loves the flexibility of her position. Both of us have student loans amounting to between $100,000 and $200,000 each, and we lack significant savings or any financial support from family. Since she enjoys her job, I agreed to move to a location between our two workplaces, resulting in a four-hour daily commute for me and a 2.5 to three-hour commute for her. This arrangement has been challenging; my job is demanding, but it’s what works for now. She expects a proposal soon, and while we’ve discussed it, I’m open to the idea. However, after initially agreeing to the possibility of relocating, she has since changed her mind and now prefers to stay put. She has even suggested that I consider taking a pay cut to remain in the state. I explained that this reasoning doesn't make sense to me. I want my career to thrive in the city where I can earn three times my current salary, and I believe we would be happier if we could eliminate the long commutes. I also pointed out that there are job opportunities closer to my workplace that would provide her with higher pay and similar benefits, but she dismissed that option. I'm feeling stuck. We've been together for about five years and live together, but I can't envision sacrificing my chance for financial stability. It's frustrating that she isn't willing to consider moving from the town where she's been employed for four years, even though it could allow us to build a life together with better financial prospects and career opportunities.