Why Do Girls Lose Interest Over Time? My Experience in College and University.

After completing 10th grade, I enrolled in a new college where I had no acquaintances. Although feeling solitary, my academic abilities reassured me. It didn’t take long before I heard from my classmates about a girl who was the top student in our batch. She was in a different section, but some of my classmates, who lived near my maternal uncle’s house—just like her—spoke of her frequently, sparking my curiosity. One day, while browsing our common Telegram group, I identified her. I had already come across her picture while scrolling through the group (come on, we’ve all done a bit of stalking!). I thought to myself, She’s intelligent, and I do well in academics too—perhaps we could be friends, and she might even assist me with my studies. So, I reached out to her. That initial message quickly evolved into lengthy conversations. Before long, we were chatting every day, sometimes until 2 AM, never missing a single day of sending good morning and good night messages. Our exchanges went beyond trivialities; we even tackled academic discussions. The ironic part? I had never spoken to her in person, as I had always been a bit shy around girls back then. For the first 6–7 months, everything felt ideal. She seemed keen on our conversations—she would message me first, respond quickly, and even obliged my requests. But gradually, things shifted. The more I tried to engage her, the more she withdrew. She began to ignore my texts, sometimes for weeks at a time, and it took a toll on me emotionally; I even fell ill for a few days because of how much it impacted me. Fast forward to university, and the cycle repeated itself. I met a girl from my hometown who was attending my university as well. Eager to know her better, I obtained her number from a friend. We began chatting on WhatsApp daily, and initially, she seemed enthusiastic. However, as time went on, the same pattern emerged—her interest gradually waned. That’s when it hit me—why does this keep happening to me? It genuinely frustrates me. I invested my time in these relationships, only to feel that I wasted my college years and a few months of university on something that was never meant to be. Since then, I’ve been reluctant to text or get close to any girl. These experiences have profoundly altered my outlook—I started to believe that women are always seeking someone better. Has anyone else gone through something similar? Or is it just me?