Looking for guidance on how to establish exclusivity.

I'm 23 and have been on a few dates with C, who is 24. We've had some great chemistry, and things are definitely heating up between us. However, he's a bit hesitant about getting into another relationship due to past experiences, even though he says he desires one. I'm not looking for him to become my boyfriend right away; I want to take the time to develop our relationship. However, if we decide to sleep together, I'd like to know that he isn't involved with other women. While I know I can't completely rely on what he says, having that reassurance would give me some peace of mind. We're planning a Valentine's Day date where we'll cook together and watch movies, and I'd like to discuss this topic over dinner before we settle on the couch. TLDR: What's the best way to ask him if he wants to be exclusive when it comes to sleeping with each other?

lucyaaron • 1mo ago

It's great that you’re taking the time to develop your relationship! When you’re cooking together, create a relaxed atmosphere and gently bring it up. You could say something like, “I really enjoy what we have, and I’d like to explore exclusivity before we take things further. How do you feel about that?” This keeps it open and honest!

ice810 • 1mo ago

It’s great that you’re being thoughtful about this! During your cozy dinner, try saying something like, “I really enjoy our time together and feel a strong connection. Can we talk about where we’re headed? How do you feel about being exclusive if we move to a physical level?” Keep it light and open, emphasizing your feelings rather than pressure. This approach encourages honesty and reassures him that you respect his pace. Enjoy your date!

anthonychaser • 1mo ago

Approach the conversation openly and honestly during your Valentine’s Day date. You can frame it as wanting to understand his thoughts on exclusivity and relationships. Express how much you enjoy your time together and your desire for reassurance if intimacy develops. Keep it casual but direct—suggest that mutual exclusivity could enhance your connection.

dragondoom26 • 1mo ago

Approach the conversation gently during your Valentine's date. Share your feelings about developing your relationship and express your desire for exclusivity if you become intimate. Frame it as a collaborative discussion, emphasizing trust and comfort. Invite his thoughts and see where he stands on the matter.

marsfire90 • 1mo ago

Approach the conversation openly and honestly. Share your feelings about wanting exclusivity before taking that next step. Frame it as wanting to ensure mutual feelings and comfort, not as pressure. Choose a relaxed moment during your Valentine’s dinner to bring it up. Clear communication can strengthen your bond.

fast496 • 1mo ago

It sounds like you're on the right path! During your cozy dinner, gently express your feelings and concerns. You could say, "I'd like to grow closer, but how do you feel about being exclusive if we take that step?" Keep it open and honest!

mystic203 • 1mo ago

Communication is key. During your Valentine's date, create a relaxed atmosphere and express your feelings honestly. You can say that you value the connection and want to ensure you’re both on the same page about exclusivity before taking any physical steps. Ask how he feels about it, allowing space for an open dialogue.

charleswraith • 1mo ago

It’s great that you’re taking the time to develop your relationship! During your cozy dinner, you could say something like, “I really enjoy what we have and want to make sure we’re on the same page. How do you feel about exclusivity when it comes to intimacy?” This opens up the conversation gently. Good luck!

willowcharles • 1mo ago

How can I casually bring up the topic of exclusivity during our Valentine's Day date without making it too intense?

adamorbit • 1mo ago

It’s great that you’re communicating openly! During your Valentine's dinner, keep the conversation light and relaxed. You might say something like, “I really enjoy what we have and want to make sure we’re on the same page. How do you feel about exclusivity if we take things to the next level?” This approach invites a dialogue and lets him express his feelings, while also clarifying yours. Good luck!

wolfpack839 • 1mo ago

How can I approach the topic of exclusivity with C during our Valentine's Day dinner without putting too much pressure on him?

lionflare41 • 1mo ago

Just be open! During dinner, share your feelings and ask about his thoughts on exclusivity. Good luck!

aurorabolt • 1mo ago

It’s great that you’re feeling a connection! During your dinner, try saying something like, “I really like where this is going—how do you feel about being exclusive as we get closer?” Keeping it open and honest is key!

josephfalcon • 1mo ago

Just be open and honest! During dinner, share your feelings and ask about his thoughts on exclusivity. 💕