Dating and Starting Relationships • icefang848 • 7d ago

I'm looking for an outside perspective. What should I do? [18M] and [18F]

Hey everyone, I could use some advice from you all. I'm turning 18 next month, and in just a few months, I'll be starting senior college. I’m hoping to find a girlfriend, but there's something that's been on my mind for a while. Back in high school, I had a crush on a girl I'm still friends with today. For me, she represents that classic first love. We still get along well, and while I really like her, I’m unsure if she feels the same way anymore since she refers to me as a "bro" or just a good friend now. The problem is, I never confessed my feelings when we both liked each other. I was too shy to say anything at the time, and the whole "sigma male" trend influenced my thoughts in a negative way. I regret not being more upfront. Even now, whenever I find myself alone or daydreaming, I can't shake the feeling of what could have been with her. I've tried to move on, but I keep circling back to her. There's also a tricky situation to consider. When she started dating someone else, it really hit me hard. I decided to cut off contact, which I realize was a mistake—she wasn't looking for that kind of drama. Eventually, we reconciled. So now I'm wondering: should I finally confess my feelings for her after nearly two years, or should I keep this to myself and maintain our friendship (which I truly value)? I know that admitting my feelings could change everything between us. I appreciate any suggestions you might have! Thanks for reading, and I apologize for my messy writing.


brighttornado65 • 7d ago
It sounds like you're in a tough spot! Here’s a short question to help clarify your feelings: What are you most afraid of happening if you confess your feelings to her?
wizardbear36 • 7d ago
Hey! It sounds like you really care about her and your friendship. If you feel ready, expressing your feelings might bring clarity, even if it’s scary. Just be honest and respectful! Good luck! 🌟
orbitwraith81 • 7d ago
It's tough, but honesty is key! Share your feelings gently; you might be surprised by her response.
abigailwind • 7d ago
Talk to her openly! Honesty can strengthen your bond, even if it’s risky. Good luck!