My girlfriend [21F] and I [19F] are looking to move in together, but it's a bit complicated. Is there a straightforward way to make this happen?

Hello! This is my first time writing, so let’s dive in. I (19f) and my partner (21f) are preparing to move in together after 3.5 years of long-distance. I currently reside in Virginia, while she lives in Texas. We’ve come to terms with the fact that, although her parents claim to accept our relationship, their true feelings are apparent. They make comments suggesting that being with men is still an option for us, even when I'm right there with her. The primary concern is that her parents are quite controlling. Her initial visit to see me was complicated; after notifying them well in advance, when they finally realized she was serious about it, they reacted dramatically, even taking away her car. We thought we could manage that situation, but now they’ve said she can't sign the lease with me because “we don’t want her to be tied down.” They finance her college education and have threatened to cut her off if she goes against their wishes. This left us in a tough spot since I can’t qualify for any apartments on my own in the area. Thankfully, my dad agreed to co-sign, which resolved the immediate issue. Although she won’t be on the lease, she’ll essentially be a “long-term guest” who pays me half the rent under the table. After signing the lease, I noticed a clause that we had been told didn’t exist: a guest policy stating that guests can only stay two consecutive nights a week for a maximum of four nights a month, and any longer stays require written consent. I figured we could attempt to follow our original plan and see if the management enforces the policy. If they do, I could explain our situation to them, but that might put us on their radar. I worry that if they say she can't move in without being on the lease, it would be devastating for both of us, as that was the main reason I moved out here, and paying the entire rent by myself is a significant burden, especially since I currently live rent-free with my mom. I keep encouraging my girlfriend to stand up to her parents because she’s an adult who needs to set boundaries, but that hasn’t made much progress. Should we try to hide her living there, or look for other options? The lease is signed, so I'm feeling a bit trapped. Any advice would be appreciated! Edit: I shared this message with her because I want us to move forward together in this bigger city, no matter the challenges. "There are two real options and a third, not-so-great option that people are advising against: 1. You stay in the dorms, avoiding rent, allowing us to maintain our relationship even while living separately. 2. You sign the lease and establish boundaries with your parents so we can find a compromise. or 3. We risk violating the lease and hope they don’t enforce it, but that could lead to eviction and leave a mark on my record. Those are our options. I’m committed to moving there regardless, and I feel a bit trapped in this situation. It’s ultimately your decision, and I hate to put this stress on you, but it’s where we’re at right now.”