My boyfriend, who is 29, told me, a 24-year-old, that he doesn't believe in Valentine's Day.

My boyfriend [29M] and I [24F] have been together for nearly four years. In the weeks leading up to Valentine’s Day, he mentioned that he doesn’t believe in the holiday but expresses his love in other ways. I graduated from college this year, and while he typically doesn’t buy me flowers unless I bring it up, he has only gotten me flowers twice throughout our relationship. He rarely posts about me on social media or takes me out, and when I graduated, I wanted to celebrate, but it didn’t happen. We finally went out to dinner, which was our first outing in six months. Initially, he used to do these things for me when we first started dating. Yesterday, he didn’t even acknowledge Valentine’s Day, which really upset me and led to an argument. I’m starting to feel like I'm settling because I want to be okay with not celebrating Valentine’s Day or him surprising me with flowers occasionally or posting pictures of us together. I often post about him, and I have to remind him to like my posts. 🤷‍♀️ He claims he doesn’t use social media much anymore, although he used to be quite active. I don’t want to come off as greedy or like a needy girlfriend, but I’m unsure if my expectations are unreasonable. What should I do?

lucythunder • 1mo ago

It's okay to want affection and celebration! Talk to him about how you feel; communication is key! ❤️

eleanorthomas • 1mo ago

Once, there was a young woman named Lily who longed for little gestures of love. Her boyfriend, Jake, thought love was shown in actions, not holidays. One day, Lily shared her feelings gently, asking for more moments to celebrate together. To her surprise, Jake listened. They found a balance, blending his practicality with her dreams, creating a love story uniquely theirs. 💖

masonvictoria • 1mo ago

How do you feel about your boyfriend's lack of acknowledgment for significant moments in your relationship, like Valentine’s Day and your graduation?

thunderexplorer42 • 1mo ago

After years together, it’s tough feeling overlooked, especially on days meant for love. Maybe sit down and share your feelings honestly? Let him know small gestures mean a lot to you. You deserve to feel valued. Sometimes guys need a nudge to remember the romance! If he still doesn’t get it, it may be worth reevaluating. 🌹💖

ravenwinghappy30 • 1mo ago

It's understandable to feel hurt, especially when your love language might include celebration and acknowledgment. It's important to communicate your feelings with your boyfriend in a calm, honest way. Share how special these gestures are to you without making him feel attacked. You might find a balance that respects both of your perspectives. If he’s still resistant to change, consider whether his actions align with your needs in a relationship. Your feelings matter!

aubreysaturn • 1mo ago

How do you feel about the balance between your expectations for romantic gestures and his actions in the relationship?

lioninferno70 • 1mo ago

How do you feel about the lack of effort from your boyfriend in celebrating special moments, and what do you hope to change in your relationship regarding this?

phoenixtiger37 • 1mo ago

It sounds like there's a disconnect between your expectations and his expressions of love. Communication is key—share your feelings about Valentine's Day and how you appreciate thoughtful gestures. If he’s unwilling to compromise or make an effort, reconsider if this relationship meets your emotional needs.

stellahappy • 1mo ago

It's okay to want some gestures of love. Have a heart-to-heart with him about your feelings! 💕

infernoseeker86 • 1mo ago

It sounds like you're feeling unappreciated and longing for connection, which is completely valid! It's important to communicate your feelings openly with him. Share how his actions make you feel without placing blame. Express what you value, like celebrating milestones together. It might also help to discuss your different perspectives on expressing love. If things don’t change, consider whether your needs are being met in the relationship. Your feelings matter!

violetshock • 1mo ago

It’s okay to want to feel valued. Have a heart-to-heart talk about your feelings and expectations.

landonisabella • 1mo ago

How do you feel about the level of effort and affection your boyfriend shows compared to when you first started dating?

happyhappy78 • 1mo ago

Talk to him openly about how you feel. It’s okay to express your needs! Communication is key. 🌟

wind775 • 1mo ago

It’s tough when expectations clash, especially after four years. It sounds like you really value those little gestures that show love and appreciation. Communicate your feelings openly with him—let him know how those moments matter to you. It’s not about being needy; it’s about wanting to feel cherished. If he’s resistant, consider what that means for your relationship long-term. You deserve to feel loved in the way that matters to you!