My boyfriend, who is 26, tends to get frustrated when I have a different perspective on a situation than he does.

My boyfriend (26m) and I (22f) have been together for three years, but I’m finding it challenging to navigate our differing feelings about certain situations without him getting upset. **Please don’t repost or use this for content, thank you.** As mentioned in the title, he tends to become upset when my feelings about a situation don’t align with his—regardless of how I express those feelings. For example, we were recently trying to make plans with friends for the long weekend, but he ended up scheduling them for the one day I was working. This was particularly disappointing for me, as I was really looking forward to the activity. When I calmly brought up my feelings of disappointment after work, asking if there were alternatives so I could also be included, he reacted negatively instead of understanding where I was coming from. To clarify, I approached him with a calm demeanor; I wasn’t angry or confrontational, but it still seemed to bother him that I felt disappointed at all. I suspect that even if I hadn’t told him and he found out later, he would still have had the same reaction because he believes I shouldn’t feel that way. It’s frustrating because I understand that he doesn’t share my perspective, but feelings are inherently personal and shouldn’t have to match someone else’s expectations. I recognize that perhaps it wasn’t necessary to express my disappointment since there wasn’t much that could be done, and it wouldn’t be fair to ask him to change his plans for my sake. However, I’m confident he would have still reacted negatively had he discovered my feelings in a different way. I’m at a loss as to how to convey to him that it’s unrealistic to expect me to feel only how he would in the same situation. Additionally, I’ve noticed a pattern when I confront him about things that upset me. His immediate response tends to be about how he would want to be treated if the roles were reversed, which does little to address my concerns. Rather than taking responsibility, he redirects the focus to his perspective, which makes it difficult for me to communicate my feelings effectively. My questions are twofold: Is his behavior genuinely problematic, or am I reacting strongly because I feel invalidated? If his behavior is indeed problematic, how can I express that to him in a constructive way that doesn’t escalate the situation? **TL;DR:** My boyfriend (26m) struggles to see things from my (22f) perspective and gets upset when my feelings differ from his. He often redirects criticism back to his own opinions, making it difficult for me to address issues in our relationship.