My boyfriend overlooked me on Valentine's Day.

My boyfriend [22M] and I [21F] have been together for a year and a half, and right now I'm feeling really hurt. We have an ongoing issue in our relationship where I don’t feel that he takes my feelings seriously. Whenever I bring up something that bothers me, he either ignores it, brushes it off, makes a joke, or completely sidesteps the conversation until I let it go. This has become a recurring pattern, and despite my attempts to communicate my feelings nicely, nothing seems to change. Now it’s Valentine’s Day, and I feel like I'm just waiting for my boyfriend to acknowledge the day. We had planned to celebrate, but then he had to leave for a military mission, which I completely understood. What I don’t understand is that even though he knew he wouldn’t be around, he didn’t do anything to make me feel special in a small way. This morning, he texted me saying, “Hello. No text from you?” as if I was supposed to reach out first. I kept my response neutral, hoping he would mention Valentine’s Day on his own. He didn’t. Hours went by with no word from him, and I saw other couples celebrating, which made me feel really sad because I wanted that too. I wasn’t expecting a grand gesture, just a little recognition that I was on his mind. Instead of acknowledging the day or saying something meaningful, he sent me a meme about how his “Valentine’s plans” were with the military instead of me. That was the first mention of the day from him—no “Happy Valentine’s Day,” no small thoughtful gesture, just a joke about his absence. At that point, I was already feeling hurt, so I replied, “I’m glad you think it’s funny.” Rather than understanding my feelings, he just asked, “Am I laughing?” I tried to explain how I felt like he doesn’t take things seriously, but he acted confused and said, “Uh what?” then left me on read. He hasn’t texted me since. What hurts the most is that he’s active on his phone. He’s been on Instagram and watching YouTube, yet he won't take a moment to check in on me. He had several opportunities to make me feel special today, even with a simple message, but he didn’t. I see other girls receiving posts, flowers, and dinner dates—even the bare minimum from their boyfriends—and I feel foolish for wanting anything at all. I love him, but I don’t feel the love I need in return. I feel ignored and unimportant, and I’m unsure what to do. Should I wait and see if he steps up, or is this just who he is? I don’t want to keep feeling this way. P.S. He did say we could celebrate and do the things we planned when he gets back from his week-long mission, and I appreciate that. But I wasn’t asking for anything extravagant—I just wanted a little something special on the day itself. A message, a thoughtful note, or even a small meal delivered would have shown that I was on his mind. Instead, I received silence.