My boyfriend has stopped participating in typical relationship activities. Me [20, female], him [21, male].

My boyfriend and I have been together for two years, and fortunately, we didn't experience an awkward phase. From the start, we clicked and got along well. We enjoyed the typical honeymoon period filled with excitement, which lingered into the first year. It wasn't an over-the-top infatuation, but rather a natural love for each other—enjoying each other’s company, chatting, and even feeling like friends. However, about a year into our relationship, I began to notice some changes. He stopped surprising me with flowers and romantic gestures like leaving me sweet notes or sending thoughtful texts. Our conversations became less engaging, and it felt like it was getting progressively worse. Now that we’re in our second year together, I've tried to discuss these changes with him, but he doesn’t recognize that there’s a problem. I love him dearly and enjoy our talks, but it often seems like the only way to get him to open up is by asking about his hobbies. While I appreciate hearing about his interests, it’s disheartening that when I share something exciting or significant that happened to me, he can only respond with a disinterested “that’s cool.” Moreover, he’s not as willing to stay on the phone with me anymore. We’re in a long-distance relationship for half the year due to college, and while we used to spend hours talking every night, he now struggles to stay on the phone for more than ten minutes. When I have a tough day or need support, he seems annoyed when I express my feelings. He insists he’s not bothered, but his tone and actions suggest otherwise. I can be sharing something serious and he’ll just say, “Okay, I have to go now.” This isn’t just me being overly critical; I could be discussing personal challenges, like family issues or mourning my father, and he still seems irritated and wants to leave the conversation. Before suggesting that I should just talk to him about it or consider ending the relationship, please understand that I truly love him and envision a future together. I’m confused about what I might be doing wrong. Maybe I'm asking too much of him, but it doesn't seem unreasonable to want to spend more than one day a week together or to have longer phone calls. I would appreciate a call now and then or some effort to plan a date. He often claims he doesn’t have the money for dates, but I’m not someone who needs extravagant outings; I value simple gestures like going for a walk, having a picnic, or watching a movie at home. I don’t ask for much, but he treats even those modest plans like a major effort. We used to be inseparable, often spending every day together when we could. I realize that’s not sustainable all the time unless we were married, but I wish we could see each other more than once or twice a week. I’ve communicated this to him, but he insists that's too much to ask. And regarding concerns about infidelity, I don’t believe that’s the issue. I know him well, and I’ve even done some checking to ease my friends' worries. I genuinely love this guy and want to make things work. Can anyone offer me advice on what I should do next?