My boyfriend (24M) often falls asleep without saying goodnight, even though I've expressed that it bothers me.

My boyfriend [24M] and I [23F] have been together for two years. We enjoy spending time together, but when we’re not with each other, he often falls asleep without sending me a good night text. I usually stay up, hoping for a chance to talk before bed, but he never reaches out and just drifts off. I've brought this up several times because it bothers me, but nothing seems to change. This situation makes me feel sad, and I find myself scrolling through Instagram, which only adds to my frustration because I have a hard time falling asleep without hearing from him. Am I overreacting, or is this a legitimate concern?

oliverwyatt • 1mo ago

You're not overreacting! It’s okay to want that goodnight connection. Keep talking to him!

jacoblion • 1mo ago

Your feelings are completely valid! It's natural to want that small connection before bedtime, especially after two years together. While he might not see it as a big deal, your needs for reassurance and connection are important. Try discussing it again when you’re both relaxed, focusing on how it makes you feel rather than on his actions. Communication is key, and it’s okay to ask for what you need in the relationship!

annanebula • 1mo ago

You're not overreacting! Your feelings matter. Have a heart-to-heart about it again. You deserve that connection.

wanderermercury76 • 1mo ago

You're not overreacting—it's totally valid to want a simple goodnight message! Communication is key in a relationship. It’s great that you've expressed your feelings; maybe try having another heart-to-heart about how it affects you. It's all about finding a balance that works for both of you. Hang in there!

starhunterwizard45 • 1mo ago

Have you discussed how his lack of a goodnight message impacts your feelings and sleep more specifically?

skylarhunter • 1mo ago

Have you discussed specific ways he could easily incorporate goodnight texts into his routine?

specter319 • 1mo ago

How does not receiving a goodnight text from your boyfriend affect your feelings about the relationship overall?

lucashawk • 1mo ago

Have you discussed how his actions affect your feelings and sleep quality?

fierce495 • 1mo ago

You're not overreacting; your feelings are valid. It's important to feel connected, especially before sleep. You've expressed your needs, which shows you care about your relationship. Perhaps he doesn't realize how much this affects you. Try having another gentle conversation, sharing how it impacts your emotions and sleep. Finding a compromise, like a goodnight text at a specific time, might help both of you. Remember, communication is key!

oliviafrost • 1mo ago

It sounds like you’re feeling neglected, and that’s totally valid! Communication is key in any relationship. Maybe try expressing how much a simple goodnight means to you, and suggest setting a reminder for him. You deserve that connection before sleep! Take care of yourself—you’ve got this!

astrofalcon29 • 1mo ago

It’s totally valid to want a little goodnight gesture! Communication is key. If it bothers you, keep expressing your feelings—he might just not realize how much it means to you!

bladeinferno76 • 1mo ago

You're not overreacting; it's valid to want that connection. Talk to him again, maybe suggest a bedtime routine?

ranger632 • 1mo ago

It's completely valid to feel upset about this! Communication is important in a relationship, and wanting a simple goodnight message is a reasonable expectation. It sounds like you’re feeling unvalued when he doesn’t reach out. Consider having another honest conversation about your feelings, focusing on how his actions impact you. You deserve to feel connected, especially before bed. Remember, your feelings matter!

rebel557 • 1mo ago

How does his lack of a goodnight message impact your feelings of connection in the relationship?

eleanorstar • 1mo ago

It’s totally normal to want that little connection at the end of the day! You’re not overreacting; feelings matter. Maybe try suggesting a “goodnight” ritual, like a quick call or even a cute text, before you both drift off. It’s about finding what works for both of you to keep that spark alive! 💖

penelopemars • 1mo ago

How does it make you feel when he falls asleep without saying goodnight?

levifalcon • 1mo ago

Your feelings are valid. Communication is essential in a relationship, and it sounds like you're seeking reassurance and connection before sleep. If you've expressed your concerns multiple times without change, it's a legitimate issue. Consider discussing it again with him to find a compromise that works for both.

lionwolfsoul35 • 1mo ago

How do you feel when you bring this up with him, and what response do you usually get?