I [28F] am requesting some changes from my husband [29M], but all I receive are excuses.

I'm feeling quite frustrated because my husband doesn’t seem to listen to me. He often replies with things like, "it's just how I am" or "at least it’s not just you." Many people believe he might have ADHD, but I doubt he would take any steps to address it. When I come to him with a problem, it hurts that his typical responses are along the lines of "hm, I'm not sure what to say" or "I don’t know, that’s a tough one." He claims he’s trying to improve, but he doesn’t explain how. I’ve suggested he practice active listening, but he hasn’t made any effort to do so. I’ve also asked for more quality time together, as I often feel he prefers hanging out with his friends or playing video games. He tends to blame finances and insists that he really wants to play a new game. While he’s quick to spend money on games or nights out with friends, he seems reluctant when it comes to spending time with me. I’ve suggested free activities, but he seems to find distractions instead. I’ve expressed my desire for flowers. He usually says it's not his style or that he can’t afford it, yet he’ll occasionally get me a Starbucks to lift my spirits. I’ve pointed out that there are $5 bouquets at Walmart and mentioned how meaningful even a single flower would be to me, but he seems too concerned about money or just doesn't see it as important. I’ve been wanting to move out of the city for years, but there always seems to be an obstacle preventing him from committing. He mentioned we’d make the move this year, but he keeps coming up with reasons for why he hasn’t looked for job opportunities. I’ve even helped with his job search, but he frequently has excuses for why he can't apply or why he doesn’t like the available positions. He postponed talking to a realtor who provided him with a contact for a broker to discuss selling and buying options, and he still hasn’t called. I encouraged him to reach out and leave a message, but he tried to come up with reasons not to. It’s been two months now with no progress. What should I do next?